So this guy I like he has been seeing a girl for a month and says he's getting attached. But, him and I have been teasing/flirting for several months and recently texting (before he told me about the other girl). So we recently went out with some friends and talked he said he's confused and ever since him and I have been texting he's been thinking about me. My question is, should I completely back off and leave him be with the girl he is seeing ( they are not official) or ask him on a date? he said the girl has 2 kids and I have none, but when I asked if he thought him and I would be more compatible because of that he was like "not necessarily, I like kids" what did he mean by that?
He meant he likes kids and it won't effect his decision. Sometimes we want to read more into something said that doesn't exist. Based on what you said, I would tell you to go for it. He left the door wide open for a reason and that is a good sign. Remember, this is his decision. Don't make your time together all about him making a choice. I would advise that if he keeps seeing this other girl after a while, you need to think about moving along. Many men like to see more than one lady and enjoy what they get from each one. To be totally honest with you, I think you have a player here and that never ends up good for anyone but him. His comments to you give me that feeling. Be careful. Only you can protect yourself form being hurt in the end. I wish you the best in whatever you decide!
It means he likes kids so that isn't the difference between you two.
well, this is toughie because if he isn't committed to the other girl, then you aren't breaking anything. I know people who date more than one person, so as long as you are confident he isn't committed to this other girl, I say date him, but hold back on "all the goodies" until he decides which route he is going to take. He needs to clear is head on what he wants.
Well, he is just saying his confusion isn't because of her kids and dating or not dating her has nothing to do with her kids. As for should you pursue or not, well, I believe once you start seeing someone, you are automatically exclusive and should not be seeing someone else. Therefore, I would think you are being a boyfriend stealer. I think you want him more now simply because he is seeing this other woman and you see him now as being more desirable since this other woman is seeing him. Basically you want what you can't have. Honestly, you had your chance before, you just didn't make a move and it is too late.
Your whole situation sounds like there's not enough flirting and teasing going down enough to figure things out just yet. Looks like you guys are "just friends" from what you wrote even though he had said not necessarily to which I say being your flirt game and start pursuing because he isn't totally sold on the idea of getting close to the other just yet. Good Luck.
@Lioness keep persuing this guy because as you've said, he and the other girl aren't official yet. The fact that this woman has 2 kids will pose a problem for him in the long run because her kids will always come first ahead of the guy.
My exGF had a 2 year old son who was very difficult. It placed a lot of strain on our relationship because of it (i won't go into details) and we broke up. Bottomline, this guy would be far better off with you as there is no child in the picture and he'll be much happier 😆
If you and he are comparable. Have something in common. can get along with each other? Then go do it! But he made the comment about kids. Which means he may want kids from you. If your ok with that fine, but if your not it could be a problem. he might want to be a daddy.
So basically he was flirting/teasing with you then met this woman but continued flirting/teasing with you -sigh- guys those days. Compare to the others i would say if you like him and want more then fight for him, girl (you're older than me but nvm XD)
I think you have asked enough. It seems, by what you have posted here, that he has already made his decision.. I completely understand having feelings for someone where all attention is pointed that way. But you need to back off and see if they work out or not. Really, if I was you I wouldn't even bother talking unless he leaves her and decides to pursue you.
Well you two aren't exclusive with anyone yet. What's wrong with just continuing to date? At some point though you might want to ask yourself if it's worth pursuing a guy who isn't sure you're the one he wants to be with. I mean you want