ill explain with my current situation (I have not yet messed it up thankfully... I usually do).
I met a guy online. Honestly, I think he's the type to just talk to women on tinder without any intention of meeting with them. We've been talking for a while now, and we have come close to meeting, but he sneaks out each time. He isn't a catfish. We have mutuals on Facebook and I've met his brother before. The thing is, it has been awhile and we both are in full contact. We have talked overnight for hours on end. He works almost full time and is in a band, and will be touring all next month and spring. I've said I understand he's busy and building his life, etc. We get along very well in person; but he told me he spends most of his time alone. Anyways, he had been off tinder for a good month since he didn't have a phone. I got rid of my tinder and was really into him. My friend said just last night she matched with him on tinder and he said hello! To her. She unmatched with him right away. I feel really bummed... I know we aren't dating and he has FULL rights to talk to whoever... But why would he talk to her if he could talk to me? Why, if he's interested in me (and he is, he told me), why would he feel the need to as far as I know, talk to other women online? I don't think he is getting many matches... Since he spoke to her right away... He isn't like a lady killer either. He's like a small, quiet guy. I just feel super bummed because I thought he was thinking of me as much as I was him.
Most Helpful Guy
I'm confused because it sounds like you never met. If you haven't then he isn't that serious of a guy and he's talking to whoever. Maybe he is interested, but he's playing his options or he doesn't know what he wants. Until he's committed, count any guy as not committed!
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Most Helpful Girl
Guys (in my experience) have a tendency to play the field a lot, especially when it comes to online dating. The biological reason is that in the caveman days they would do this a lot to make sure the population of their group was sufficient and sustained. I think there's a biological reason that still has ahold of guy's brains somewhat, but I also think that there's another aspect to it. It's the curiosity of what else is out there that keeps them looking. Also you might not've convinced him that he wants to be with you and that's why he's looking still. I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but just because he's interested in you doesn't mean he wants to be exclusive with you.1
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