Would you judge a potential partner by her/his past?
What Girls Said 11
It depends , because his past behaviour could determine his future potential with me
If he'd had an awful childhood then I'd never judge him by his past. His circumstanstances were beyond his control.
The past is who you WERE but the present is who you ARE, so I guess it depends on what he'd did or what happened in his past.
The past can define a person in a nagative way , so they can become resentful, bitter and full of anger. Or it can define them in a positive way and strengthen them. He may have risen above his past and totally changed
If he'd betrayed someone's trust in the past or cheated in a past relationship then I'd almost certainly judge him and avoid him. I value loyalty too much to allow people into my life who have the potential to betray my trust0
Yes of course. Your past isn't some distant unrelated relic that people pretend it is. Your actions speak volumes about you, even if those actions occurred three months ago or three years ago.
So if he was ever abusive, had ever cheated, had a history of crime/violence, shit like that, etc I wouldn't date him. Everyone makes mistakes though. So I wouldn't be like oh you took acid and screwed your neighbor at a bonfire you're a man whore and I'm never talking to you again. It's just life everyone does dumb stuff they aren't proud of. But if he's done things that indicate his character isn't good then I'm out.1
Depends. Like... If they murdered someone or abused their old partner, I may be a teeny bit jusgemental, y'know?0
Why I judge him? Yeah.
Would I note date him? Nope, my own past matters more to me than his past, but there are a few things I will never tolerate.
- Sleeping with a prostitute
- Having threesomes or orgies
- Having bisexual or gay sex
- Having anal sex
But I will tolerate if he used to be a fuckboy and slept around a lot as long as he respects my virginity.0
Yes. Depends on what he did. But things can change if he is really changed.0
Somewhat. It depends if it's a good or bad past!0
nah the past is past, unless you carry a souvenir with you ofc like an std lmao0
What Guys Said 12
Depends on how it affects who they are now. For example, If a girl has a history of all her ex boyfriends cheating on her and I can tell she has major trust issues still... that's a judgement call I have to make. Deciding whether or not it's worth pushing past her walls and if the slightest thing I do she doesn't 100% approve of will be considered "breaking" that trust I was supposedly given.
Some girls are looking for anything to confirm the beliefs they have. If one belief is guys can't be trusted, she'll find something to say you showed her you can't be trusted either.0
It's hard not to.0
It depends on what's in her past. If she slept with other guys, that wouldn't bother me. If she has a history of cheating, I probably wouldn't date her. If she has psychological problems and isn't clinically sane, I would run straight for the exit door.0
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