I almost always pay for myself or we split the costs, I don't want to be that girl that expects a guy to pay. But it always scores him points if he offers or tries to pay. It's more the consideration and thought that counts.
Yep I love being treated to dinner. If he's really so cheap then I can pay for the dates and other stuff but if he's cheap that he can't pay for a cheap meal that I eat then I begin to question whether he's long term material.
Hey I can pay for myself. In a long relationship I don't mind it if it's like a surprise date but other than that I'm paying myself. And if I don't have enough money, I'll pay him back as soon as I can. I'd feel bad. I can't accept money wothout a damn good reason anyways so why should this be any different?
Because it's 2016 and I was raised to provide for myself, I either treat or split.
Because I'm a 23 year old trying to save up to move out and also because I'm a cheapskate I like when he pays. Not because he has a penis, but because if he pays then that means I don't and can use that money for other stuff.
When my fiance and I go out one of us usually pays for dinner and the other pays for whatever after dinner activity we end up doing.
My boyfriend and I (almost always) go dutch when it comes to paying. Meaning that we split the bill- everyone pays for themselves. Ngl but my friends pass a lot of judgement on that when I tell them should they for whatever reason feel the need to confirm that he paid for me... something I try to ignore. Everyone paying for themselves is fine by me!
I don't want him to pay. But I want him to suggest paying and insisting on paying as an act of chivalry and courtesy. But at the end I want to pay because I don't want to feel like I owe him something.
I prefer him to pay if it was his idea to go to a specific place and he didn't let me know where it was (it was a surprise, for example). I don't want him to surprise me by going to the most expensive steak place in town, which I'm ambivalent about going to, and then ask me to split the bill. If I have a say in choosing where we go, of course I'm happy to split the bill or even pay for both of us. It's basically the same mentality that says I don't like splitting bills among a table of 10 people who got things to share.
I honestly couldn't care less if I pay or if he pay or if we split. But I guess it depends on who asked who out and what words were used exactly. For example, if a guy says "Can I take you for a coffee/drink/dinner?" I would expect him to pay, yes. But if he says "Want to go for a coffee/drink/dinner?" then I expect we split the bill.
I really just want to split the bill. I have no problem paying if the guy is broke, though.
A staggering amount of women on this website are still stuck in the 1950's. They *demand* that guys pay for them. And that's pretty sad. They often hide behind the "I'm traditional!" excuse, but they just pick and choose the "traditional" values that benefit them.
I always pay for myself on dates, doesn't matter who asked who out. However, although you know I'm going to say no, I always expect the guy at least offer. It just shows me you're keeping me in mind and came prepared.
If you ask me on a date either pay for full or lead with the fact that we are going dutch. I don't mind going dutch. If you ask me though I am not paying for it all. That's just dumb. It would be the same for me if I asked someone on the date. Either I pay or I lead with the idea of going dutch
I don't think you should ever split when on a date. That is an excercise for plutonic friends. One or the other pays. and at the risk of getting more MGTOW hate, I contend the guy pays on the FIRST date.
It depends on the guy and how the date is going and if I like him or not. I don't mind splitting out of general fairness. Naturally I expect to pay my share. If he desires to be a gentleman and all other factors are positive, I'll let him. But f I'm not feeling it, I insist on splitting because I don't want him to think he's going to get a BJ just for buying me a burger and fries while being the lamest date on earth.
I never let people pay for me. I feel guilty that someone else is paying for me. I also feel too proud. I'd rather just pay for my own dinner or anything. I grew up having to earn anything I wanted in life, and it just feels wrong to me when someone else pays. I even feel guilty when someone gives me a gift. I don't mind paying for someone else though.
When I take a lady out, I expect to pay for the date. If she says anything about wanting to pay for her share, I tell her something like, "I'm a Southern gentleman and I have always paid for dates when I ask a lady to go out. I assure you that I'm not doing this expecting anything in return and I hope that you will simply accept this as a gift from a gentleman." I have never had a woman offer any further discussion on this subject.
I also recognize that this is one of those issues where there are likely to be generational differences, and. . . at age 20, I never told a lady that I was a Southern gentleman. At age 61, I can do it without question.
Only I'd ever pay for a girl is if we were in a relationship. Other than that she can pay for herself. These rules that the guy has to pay or that whoever ask pays is bullshit. For one you're an adult so you should be paying for yourself. At the same time if the guy pays what does he get and I don't mean sex wise? And second woman hardly ask out guys to begin with. I will admit a few women to, but it's still a small amount and even some of the ones that do ask still expect the guy to pay.
What if it was a date between two guys or two girls? Who pays then?
It's usually a bad idea for the man to pay, it's is not the 1950s. This is because it sends out the wrong signals. Girls may often say they want to be paid for - in fact many girls go on dates just for the ego-boost of being paid for. So you won't know if she is genuinely interested in you or just along for the ride if you are paying for everything. Additionally, it makes you look a little needy and desperate to impress - it can actually lose you respect. A good relationship, whether long-term or purely physical should be on an equal footing, so start off that way. Put it like this: the best approach to a date should be like making friends with the added component of sexual attraction. How would you determine who pays if you were with a friend?
Because I'm a broke college student I can't afford paid dates, so I would go on $0 dates with whatever means I have left until I am finally and at last employed. 1. Paid date = Split the bill (Fantastic sign! She is for equality and unique and is NOT an entitled woman) 2. Paid date = I pay 3. Paid date = She pays 4. Paid date = Take turns from there on and if it goes well, she earned the pampering privilege :)
omg look at how evenly split it is for girls. It might as well be 100% yes. Without being able to count on anything or trust them to want a particular thing then - and much as it sucks - the only safe option is to pay, even if she insists. ( -_-)