Pretty self explanatory, but little background we've only been together a few months but am I wasting my time? I dont see having kids with him anytime soon at all but whats the point if i know we dont want the same thing
Most Helpful Guy
Then just leave him already. Different people have different life goals and perceptions of the world and reality altogether. There's no point in hanging around him and expect him to change because he doesn't have the same goals and outlook of this world and reality as you do. You can't change him or force him to change, he has to want to change, in which you have absolutely No Control over. You can try and try and try your best to persuade him to change his views and outlooks as to why he wouldn't want kids, but if it doesn't work, then it's clear that you two are completely on different pages. The reality is that children are NOT for everyone and not everyone wants to become a parent nor should they become parent.
You've only been together for a few months, meaning you've only invested a few months worth of emotions and time. Therefore starting completely over isn't nearly as difficult compared to being together for years and then realizing recently that an important life goal of yours are not the same coming from your significant other.
Was he blunt about this from the beginning? Or when did he bring up that kids are not for him fairly recently?0
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Most Helpful Girl
If you don't want the same thing, end it now. Love is not enough, especially if your looking to get married. You have to be on the same page and want similar or the same thing. Somebody who wants to share that dream with you, not put you down or sabotage your future. If he isn't open minded to children, then your wasting your time. Overall if you have no plans for children now, then don't worry about that. By the time you get married is when you need to really think on it. But I wouldn't suggest you risk having sex with him for him to say that. It means he doesn't want to be responsible for children. So unless he proves otherwise, forget it.0