So about 4 months ago my girlfriend left me and really broke my heart. I feel better now, but don't feel completely over her because I still think about her a lot. However I kinda have a crush on another girl now but am hesitant to try to get to know her better because I don't know if it'd be fair to her to be in a relationship and me not being completely over my last girlfriend. It wouldn't be just a rebound because I'm actually legitimately interested in her, but I really, really liked my previous girlfriend and even though she doesn't want to be with me I'd be lying if I said I didn't still have feelings for her. Should I pursue a possible relationship or should I wait it out and see it I get over my last relationship first?
If you are not completely over a heartbreak, but are crushing on someone else, should you pursue a relationship or wait till the heartbreak goes away?
What Girls Said 15
That's a tricky one. On one hand, you've acknowledged that you may not be over your ex, which shows that you're realistic about things and understand how it may affect you. On the other hand... you're aware your feelings may affect you and that it may not be a good idea. It's a strange paradox, in a way.
My general advice on life is that if you have realistic reservations about it, it's best to hold off until you are completely sure of yourself. I you think your feelings for yur ex may affect your relationship with this girl, it is probably best to hold off until a later time. Give yourself another few months and see how you feel then. If you feel you are over your ex for sure, go for it. It may not be an easy few months, but it is smarter to wait until you are in a better place emotionally than to rush in and potentially ruin something great.1
This may be your opportunity to move on and heal. You are truly interested right? Then focusing on her will allow you to move on and let go of your pass. But you have to be open and willing to let her in and accept the fact that you and your ex are just that. You will never be happy until you are honest in your present and move on. This is a good thing. Just don't go running back to the ex or find ways to keep her in your life.1
Tread lightly, maybe go out with the new person, see if it is even a possibility that you have the same interests, etc... your heart will tell you when you are truly ready to move on, but just the fact that you have some interest is a good thing... maybe "step down the ladder into the pool" instead of just diving in... best of luck...1
its good to be alone after a break up and sort ysf out rather than rush into new relationship
but you also need to consider chances you get in life
so id go w this other girl but just be straight up w her and know where you guys stand, that you just got out of relationship and still have feelings for ex but also like her...2
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i think you should try to spend more time with the new girl to really figure out if your feelings for her are strong enough to overpower the lingering ones you have for your ex. i agree that it would be unfair to the new girl if you were unintentionally rebounding off of her (even though you liked her), but taking time to move on from your ex won't hurt.1
Definitely wait. If you start a relationship with this new girl, and all you can think about is your ex, that isn't going to be good; for you or your girlfriend.1
It's best to just move on.1
Heal first and just be friends for now1
This is a tough one. Sometimes the heartbreak never really fully goes away, so I would pursue the crush, but maybe give yourself a little more time if needed.1
Better to find a new object for passion as soon as possible, that will force you to forget about heartbreak.1
Are you at the point where you still about your ex but know that it would be unhealthy for you to get back with her... then yeah get to kow someone else... if you'd drop the new girl if the old girl came back then your not ready for anything serious. I had a ex that was not a good fit so I had to move on. We are still friends 13years later... when I first got together with my now husband it was because I knew I couldn't go back, I needed to move on. It was hard to move on when he tried to get me back but I knew at that point that it was done and I couldn't and wouldn't do it anymore.1
What Guys Said 5
Ask her out and go for it!! Sometimes the best way to get over someone is to get under someone..1
You should wait until you're healed. I'm gonna sound like a giant hypocrite but last month I got my heart broken by a girl I wasn seeing. We weren't official but she used me as a rebound and then tossed me aside like garbage. It hurt like hell. I started seeing some other girls now but I'm not completely over the last girl.
Rebounding is contagious I feel.1
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