in my long distance relationship, a year and half now. my boyfriend has never ever asked me for pictures, sexy pics or even shower pics.
I know he's not interested and keeps control over his sexual desire. and I know that he won't cheat me. so why do I want him to ask me for those pictures?
he has this one picture of me from back in college. (we're now in uni) so it's like what 4 years? and he treasures it and hasn't asked me for new ones. I'm starting to get jealous over myself
Most Helpful Guy
I wouldn't ask even if I wanted them. They're significantly more enjoyable if they're volunteered and din't have to be requested. That's probably the big draw for me. They don't need to be good, but if a girl I like surprises me with them then that's what's going to really count and I"m going to lose my shit.1
Most Helpful Girl
I don't find this weird at all.
First -- and most importantly -- this just may not be his thing. Different people have different turn-ons.
Personal nudes will drive some guys absolutely crazy with desire. Other guys will just crack a smile, and then get back to what they're doing. And still others really don't give much of a shit -- nudes just aren't their thing.
Also, some guys will have reservations.
• LOTS of guys might WANT to ask for nudes, but would be super shy about doing so (especially if a previous girlfriend rejected the request in a particularly bitchy way). If this is the story... you'll have to start that conversation, but, once you do, things should go your way pretty fast. (:
• Some guys might just get jealous -- especially over long distance -- and start thinking about everything ELSE. ("Who took that picture?", if it's not obviously a selfie... Or "Who ELSE might she send these to?")
Here, you especially need to think about the fact that you've already been in a relationship with this guy for a while... so, YES, IT WILL SEEM WEIRD if nudes suddenly start getting exchanged basically out of nowhere.
If he's a suspicious person, he will absolutely suspect the worst -- and not without reason (MOST people DON'T randomly start doing sexy new things after months or years).
You'll have to talk it through first.
Last but not least --
The fact that yr nudes are NOT out there... IS NOT A BAD THING!
Why is this a complaint?
I hate to sound like a finger-wagging old grandmother... but, you really don't know where those pictures will end up... and mobile devices *do* get stolen. (And DATA get stolen, too, even from devices that *don't* get stolen.)
Honestly, this isn't a bad thing at all. If you want to share yr body with him over long distance, then... video calling is yr friend bby. <30
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