in my long distance relationship, a year and half now. my boyfriend has never ever asked me for pictures, sexy pics or even shower pics.
I know he's not interested and keeps control over his sexual desire. and I know that he won't cheat me. so why do I want him to ask me for those pictures?
he has this one picture of me from back in college. (we're now in uni) so it's like what 4 years? and he treasures it and hasn't asked me for new ones. I'm starting to get jealous over myself
Boyfriend never asks for anything?
What Guys Said 16
I wouldn't ask even if I wanted them. They're significantly more enjoyable if they're volunteered and din't have to be requested. That's probably the big draw for me. They don't need to be good, but if a girl I like surprises me with them then that's what's going to really count and I"m going to lose my shit.1
Have you told your boyfriend how you feel - He might be reserved about asking0
Uhh well maybe you should offer?
I can't stand this trait in my girlfriend. She literally excepts me to know/assume everything...0
Why be bothered by this, he has a picture of you that he cherishes. Be content with where you two are now.0
Maybe he wants to keep everything a surprise so when you guys actually meet it's a really big and great thing. My guess anyways...0
I think it's just best to ask him. maybe he likes that one or doesn't want to bother you with something that can seem selfish.0
Maybe be gets pics from other girls?0
Is he affectionate? Sexual?0
Ha that's awesome. Did he ever ask for pics he's probably just a little intimidated or he's super respectful. Or cheating but probably not if you don't think so.0
If you want him to have them
Long Distance Relationships Don't work for long0
Maybe he doesn't want to intrusive, send him one and he'll probably send you one back0
I don't know about him, but you can send them to me! ;)
Send him some regardless. He'll love it.0
What Girls Said 7
I don't find this weird at all.
First -- and most importantly -- this just may not be his thing. Different people have different turn-ons.
Personal nudes will drive some guys absolutely crazy with desire. Other guys will just crack a smile, and then get back to what they're doing. And still others really don't give much of a shit -- nudes just aren't their thing.
Also, some guys will have reservations.
• LOTS of guys might WANT to ask for nudes, but would be super shy about doing so (especially if a previous girlfriend rejected the request in a particularly bitchy way). If this is the story... you'll have to start that conversation, but, once you do, things should go your way pretty fast. (:
• Some guys might just get jealous -- especially over long distance -- and start thinking about everything ELSE. ("Who took that picture?", if it's not obviously a selfie... Or "Who ELSE might she send these to?")
Here, you especially need to think about the fact that you've already been in a relationship with this guy for a while... so, YES, IT WILL SEEM WEIRD if nudes suddenly start getting exchanged basically out of nowhere.
If he's a suspicious person, he will absolutely suspect the worst -- and not without reason (MOST people DON'T randomly start doing sexy new things after months or years).
You'll have to talk it through first.
Last but not least --
The fact that yr nudes are NOT out there... IS NOT A BAD THING!
Why is this a complaint?
I hate to sound like a finger-wagging old grandmother... but, you really don't know where those pictures will end up... and mobile devices *do* get stolen. (And DATA get stolen, too, even from devices that *don't* get stolen.)
Honestly, this isn't a bad thing at all. If you want to share yr body with him over long distance, then... video calling is yr friend bby. <30
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Why don't you send him a couple more pictures and ask him which poses he would like to see? While we're together, are you sure you really want your only loving relationship to be a long distance relationship where you never see each other? Are you afraid of something? Why not start a relationship with someone you actually see, meet and touch?0
Send one anyways!0
XD I also have a long distance boyfriend who hasn't asked for pictures... maybe they just don't want to come off as needy or something? I dunno, it's good to know I'm not the only one.. good luck!0
Because your useless that's why you suck at it Jk. Maybe pornhub been bookmarked for him.0
Just send him one!
See how he reacts.0
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