Reason why I ask is beacause about 2.5 years ago i was in a long term relationship with my ex. We had been dating for 4 years and a half at that time and she complained so much about her not having guy friends and how i had so many female friends and it wasn't fair. So i told her to go find new friends since she was in college. One day she told me she did and gave her number to a guy that dhe kept bumping into in her school, when she told me that she did that i got mad and told her not to talk to him and why she would even do that. Also, other friends have told me that they would never let their gf/bf get a friend. Usually we find that as a thread no? Even if you trust him/her.
So, is it me or is it ok for your bf/gf to make new friends?
15d Some of you misunderstood the question and i just wanted to clearify that my questions is "is it ok to MAKE NEW FRIENDS while being in a relationship" not "is it ok to HAVE friends while being in a relationship" Thank you all for the comments though!
Yes of course. I mean what if you had a bisexual partner, I don't think they can like stop being friends with everyone cause they're attracted to both sexes 😂 I just apply the same concept to hetero relationships. People can be friends no matter the gender 🙄
Sure, I don't care. I wouldn't be dating the guy if I didn't trust him. It's not my job to police who he talks to. It's his job to make a conscious decision to stay faithful to me. And it really doesn't make a difference whether the girl is an old friend or a new friend. You told your girlfriend to make friends and she did, and then you got mad at her... that's a little crazy, man.
I say that they should be able to, because I feel like I have to say it. My feelings would be the opposite about it, though. I wouldn't want for them to hangout alone. It feels like a threat to me if I see that my boyfriend had a friend who is a girl. I would want to meet her and know of her intentions.
As long as the friendship remains appropriate with boundaries involved, I don't see a problem with being friends with the opposite sex. My best friend is a guy and my boyfriend never saw that as a problem because he trusts me enough. My guy friend is like a brother to me and he sees me as a sister too. If we ever did anything inappropriate, its boarderline incest. Thats just how I see it lol.
I think that it's bitter sweet because. You seem like you already had your "friends" before the relationship. That's different verses actually going out and finding a guy friend; and let's face it, it made you made because you know how you are with your girly friends. I'm sure your friends that are girls are in hope that you break up with your girlfriend for them. It shouldn't be about having something fair. Your choice was to have a friend as a girl. Doesn't mean she has to have a friend that's a guy. She did that to make you jealous by the way
I wish every guy could see this post. People need to understand that we have guy friends - before a relationship starts, during, and after a relationship but it was never be more then that. We will always have guy friends we can be dorky around and they'll just have to accept that
People should never try to restrict their partner from having friends. That's controlling and manipulative, and if a person can't handle their partner having friends, they aren't mature enough to be in a relationship to begin with.
I don't think it's okay to make new friends or have friends of the opposite sex while dating someone however I see where she was coming from you were obviously in contact with female friends and it made her uncomfortable and insecure she wanted to make you feel how she did
You said yourself you had female friends. And you told her to go make friends.
Yeah a man can in fact I witnessed one. A year ago after school I met up at a friend's house with three friends and we were discussing boys and penis sizes and guys who are good on bed when her little skinny 14 year old brother walked in the the front door and went straight to his bedroom, then his sister revealed she had seen him jerking off one time walking past his window and that he has the biggest dick she'd ever seen, of course we didn't believe her but then she said she'd prove it and we all went to her little bros room laughing and giggling, he was lying on his bed watching tv so two girls held him down on the bed while his sister and me pulled down his trousers. His sister was right he had a big dick and we all had a good laugh about it. Then one of the girls decided to grab a hold of it to see how big we could get and she coaxed him into a hard state despite, we all had a go at wanking and sucking him off which he was upset about and we couldn't get him to cum despite our best efforts to, then one girl decided to ride him to make him cum and after two minutes of that and all of us girls around him playing with his balls and shoving our tits in his face he blew his load. I suppose in retrospect it was wrong what we did
No, I would not allow him to have friends of another sex. I'm really possessive so I would just want to kill the other girl and also feel like I'm not enough for him.
Yes, of course it's okay that they make friends with the opposite gender.
Just because you asked I have to tell you it's extremely hypocritical to do what you did. So you can have female friends and she has to only talk to one guy.. you? I have seen a lot of guys who "hang out" with lots of female "friends" and when it comes to their girlfriend even talking to another guy will get all insulted and accuse the girl of cheating.
It's definitely to be friends with the opposite sex. Not to be rude, but the fact you had female friends and you didn't let your ex have male friends, kinda makes you a hypocrite (again, just my opinion. don't get offended). It's definitely fine to have a friend of the opposite sex. Did you not trust your gf? Were you cheated on before in the past? I didn't feel comfortable with my current boyfriend having female friends because I was still scarred from my last relationship. I was okay with my bf's female friends once I got to know them. Maybe try to get to know the male friends. Trust is a huge factor is a relationship :)
Yes, it is fine to have friends of opposite gender. However you need to establish strong boundaries, strict boundaries between you and your friends and secondly it's always suggested that you introduce your friends to your partner so that misunderstandings or unnecessary assumptions won't take place in future.
Another point is under any circumstances you should never give more importance to your friends than your partner, your partner should always come first and should be given the utmost importance, your friends should always come next.
Another point is there is nothing wrong in spending time with your friends, nothing wrong in having some fun with your friends but never spend more time with your friends and less time with your partner, if you do that that then it will not be good for your relationship. In fact you should spend maximum time with your partner.
If you can do all this then you can go ahead and have friends while being in a relationship. If you cannot do that, then it will not be a good idea to have friends while in a relationship.
I think its wrong for a female or male to make friends with the opposite sex while in a relationship. They would have already had been friends for me to accept it. New friends = ulterior motives sometimes. Also it really depends on the conversation they are having. complementing each other asking to meet up somethings up but general conversation might be okay online only might be okay.
It's okay but doesn't mean I like it... I don't trust guys they always assume a friendly smile for a girl with a boyfriend means she wants to sleep with humans has lost interest in her current boyfriend
It's extremely immature, especially at your age, for either person to be upset because you have friends of the opposite gender. How are you supposed to cut out half the human population because you're in a relationship.