You go on a first date with a rich man and you notice how he is funding the expensive things like overpriced restaurants with musicians playing there and pays for an expensive spiced wine and expensive gifts for you and other expensive services covered by him only for you.
He acts and plays all nice and basically without you knowing it (while you just "blindly" enjoy the time with him) he "tries to impress you by his wealth". If you ask him why he spends such a gigantic amount of money on you, he'd say "Oh, it's because I like you!" and if you ask him again about it, he'd say "Don't mind it, I like doing it just for you!".
And this date will also involve dancing, if possible kisses and maybe "things start to go somewhere more" from there.
What if his personalities and morals and inner values are average?
Guys: Imagine this exact date with a rich woman and vote accordingly to your reactions.
- Ohhh yes, that is going to be my future husband *creams panties*15% (6)45% (5)21% (11)Vote
- I would feel mixed about it: Partially enjoying it but partially suspicious. Not sure what I would do next.56% (23)27% (3)50% (26)Vote
- What am i, a purchasable (sex) object with a price tag? This is a red flag!29% (12)28% (3)29% (15)Vote
Most Helpful Girl
I wouldn't allow it. I hate it when people A) Think I have a price and B) I don't like people spending money on me. I work for a reason, I can take care of myself, if you think that I'll like you more because you spend money on me you're barking up the wrong tree.
I get with guys who I feel a connection with, not guys who throw material shit at me thinking the panties will drop.2
Most Helpful Guy
In reverse, I'd be suspicious about their intentions, especially if I don't know the rich lady personally beforehand. And because I already have trust issues within me for a very long time. I had been burned before where I thought everyone pays their fair share for what they ordered when we dine out at a restaurant and then I got fucked over when they ask me for the cash just after they paid by credit card and put in a Bigger Tip than necessary.
I would not feel comfortable with them paying for all these expensive overpriced restaurants with musicians playing there, the expensive spiced wine, expensive gifts, and other expensive services, because it just feel way too good to be true. Are they trying to bribe me or something? That's how I feel about the whole situation. No way they wound "invest" large sums of cash on me without expecting something in return, or it could simply be done to fuck me over and ask me to pay them back eventually after all the expenses and services had been used. besides I'm not interested in expensive wine or restaurants. The questions I really have for them is what is it exactly that they like about me, because I don't believe them. I feel they are lying to me as well as lying to themselves. What is it exactly they seek or want from me? What is it that she is after? Why me? What makes me so special? I'm never going to so "blindly" follow, especially if I don't know them beforehand. I'd be suspicious that they are up to something and after something from me.
I'll tell her that I'm not exactly materialistic person, and if I was going to experience all of those expensive things then I MUCH RATHER be able to pay for MY portion of it, because I don't trust anyone else with the bill. They pay for theirs I pay for whatever it is. Even if this was like a celebration for my birthday or something similar, I'd still be on guard and tell the server, restaurant or any other establishment beforehand that I am ONLY willing to pay for my portion, and won't allow the bill and check to be combined. Those will always be my terms before I am even willing to accept the invitation to go dine out with somebody or spend any money with someone all because I already had been burnt in the past. If they don't agree with my terms then we're done, I'm leaving or won't even accept the invite at all.
If her personality, morals and inner values are average then that would only mean that they are even less likely to be trustworthy to me.1