I jave men who like me and have expressed that, but all of them just wanna sleep withme or think of me in a sexual way. I've been told I'm pretty and super sweet. I wanna be able to date a nice giy who I can spoil. I love cooking lunches for guys I date or doing sweet things for them. I've always been told I'm an amazing and sweet girlfriend and stuff like that. Apparently I'm a good cook, cute, I'm always there for my boyfriend and I always do anything to make him happy. If I date someone I always put a lot of effort into making him happy and being good to him. But I always end up getting cheated on or used and no nice guys ever like me. I wanna be able to spoil him but I wanna be kinda spoiled to. I want to be with someone who likes me as much as I like him and is willing to put effort into being with me. Is something wrong with me that only jerks like me?
Why can't I seem to find a boyfriend?
What Guys Said 11
perhaps it's the types of guys you do date. like perhaps you should focus on guys who don't push for sex or talk about sex so early but instead work on establishing a strong non-sexual relationship... not sure if you do or not but since the first things you mentioned them wanting to sleep with you it made me wonder.
perhaps just reflect on the guys you've been with and perhaps note if there is a common trait or way they approach you and relationships then it will help you know if you need to focus on the types of guys you engage in relationships with0
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I feel your pain. Its easy to find someone who will use you and its even easy to find someone who will put up with being used, but its hard to find give and take. Someone one who you can treat like a queen without her thinking she is a princess :)
Don't look for "nice" guys though, they are mostly whimps. Find a good man. A good man knows he has value, but also knows you have value too. Good men are harder, because they don't play games and will leave if they think you are playing with them. They are out there though.0
You look like a cute young girl. You don't need to settle for that kind of treatment, but you may need to wait until you leave your current area to meet young men who will treat you with more respect.
You also need to look more closely at the guys you date. Do they treat others with respect? Do they glorify disrespectful behavior? These are all signs that indicate how they will treat you.0
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Try approaching guys who you think match what you want.0
If you look like this you would get a boyfriend in a heartbeat scontent-mia1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/.../...33500059_n.jpg0
you're acting negative here so it could be that or you're just finding the wrong people1
Well if you want you can talk to me!!!0
I can't find any because I'm shy
A bit weird
But that's it0
What Girls Said 3
You can't readily give all your best to every guy that you come across.
Treat the love you have like its the rarest object on the planet.
That isn't to say that you have to to be cold and reject men.
What I mean by that is remain your sweet self while at the same time show these men you're not a door mat.
Be a mix of sugar AND spice.
A perfect example is like the Cabbage Patch candy commercials.
They're a bit sour in the beginning but they have such a sweet after taste.
Learn the art of being sour and sweet.
Men love women who can tactfully tell them to stay in their place.
You got this. You just have to believe it and practice it.1
Play hard to get a lottle more. Up your standards. Fools don't go for confident girls with high standards.0
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