I jave men who like me and have expressed that, but all of them just wanna sleep withme or think of me in a sexual way. I've been told I'm pretty and super sweet. I wanna be able to date a nice giy who I can spoil. I love cooking lunches for guys I date or doing sweet things for them. I've always been told I'm an amazing and sweet girlfriend and stuff like that. Apparently I'm a good cook, cute, I'm always there for my boyfriend and I always do anything to make him happy. If I date someone I always put a lot of effort into making him happy and being good to him. But I always end up getting cheated on or used and no nice guys ever like me. I wanna be able to spoil him but I wanna be kinda spoiled to. I want to be with someone who likes me as much as I like him and is willing to put effort into being with me. Is something wrong with me that only jerks like me?
Most Helpful Guy
perhaps it's the types of guys you do date. like perhaps you should focus on guys who don't push for sex or talk about sex so early but instead work on establishing a strong non-sexual relationship... not sure if you do or not but since the first things you mentioned them wanting to sleep with you it made me wonder.
perhaps just reflect on the guys you've been with and perhaps note if there is a common trait or way they approach you and relationships then it will help you know if you need to focus on the types of guys you engage in relationships with0
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Most Helpful Girl
You can't readily give all your best to every guy that you come across.
Treat the love you have like its the rarest object on the planet.
That isn't to say that you have to to be cold and reject men.
What I mean by that is remain your sweet self while at the same time show these men you're not a door mat.
Be a mix of sugar AND spice.
A perfect example is like the Cabbage Patch candy commercials.
They're a bit sour in the beginning but they have such a sweet after taste.
Learn the art of being sour and sweet.
Men love women who can tactfully tell them to stay in their place.
You got this. You just have to believe it and practice it.1