I am a teenager who is dating a teenager married woman she is 17 and I am 16 she is separated but not divorced yet she has a little child who is 2yrs old and I really like him (as someone I would raise as my own) I love her and she says she loves me too and I believe her and I trust her and we are happy together but her "husband " is starting to cause troubles for her, he knows about me but he causes problems for my girlfriend and uses the baby as an excuse, he has only confronted me once before we were going out but after we started going out he has not confronted me he has recently came back from his 5 month absence about a month ago and he wants his "wife" back even though she is with me and he knows that so he has been causing scenes all over the place and lying to everyone he talks to just so he can make himself look like the good one he tells everyone lies like "she does not let me see my son" and I know for a fact that she does mostly every week or every other weekend or things like "she has always cheated on me with him " even though we only started dating since they separated and stuff like that to get people on his side me as the boyfriend what do you think I should do?
Help!! I really need advice, what do you think I should do?
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Number 1: Until her marital situation is resolved, don't act like husband and wife with her. She is still his, and if he wants an excuse to take the child, or get alimony from her, why hand him the evidence?
Second: Giver him a chance to earn her affection back, from your perspective, to see if he is willing to make the investment. Then he loses any leverage he may have now, using the excuse that you stole her from him.
Third: If you invest time with her, make it in public places, where people can see how you act and gain respect for you.
Fourth: Pray. Normally I would put this first but, in your case, I will suggest you pray as you do the first three, and then pray more. Let her know what you are doing and see if she is willing to be patient and wait for things. Delayed gratification is always worthy of the investment.0
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