So I like this guy. He's sweet, funny, smart, we've been friends for a long time, and we can talk for hours, like all night.
But he is 31, no degree, no work, no ambitions and no plan for the future. And that makes me think about the future? One thing is to date him and so on.. But to marry a guy and have kids with someone who doesn't have a job? Sounds like a bad idea...
Most Helpful Guy
Having a job and income is the backbone to support a family. Without that, then I can only see that unless you had a really secure and good paying career or that you would have to go on welfare or similar.
All in all, it is a very bad idea. If he still had ambitions and is still trying the best he can to do something about his current situation then it's still possible, because if he doesn't change, I can see a miserable marriage with children in your future should you choose to be with him. It's ok to lack degrees or education, because some of the most successful people in the world didn't stay in school, but they still took charge of their life and build their own wealth or brand and become entrepreneurs, not all but many had, and some didn't have jobs either. They eventually became CEOS or their own bosses, take Richard Branson from Virgin Group or even Bill Gates or Mark Zuckerberg. Think big, but start small. They all had ambitions and dreams that became true eventually.
Communicate with him, ask him to figure out what his strengths are and capitalize on them and learn how to become his own boss and run a small home based business or something, it's still a lot better than working for somebody else in the long run anyway, since most people are very unhappy with their jobs these days. He can look for something like work at home opportunities, and eventually become a stay at home dad that works from home. Telecommuting jobs.0
Most Helpful Girl
So I'm in high school and had this similar situation me and this guy were friends then we talked but he didn't ever want to do anything. He just wanted to smoke weed. I ended up realizing that I wanted to date someone who had ambitions in live whether it was achievable or not. I realized that I had morals and standards in my life and dedication was one. If I were you I think you need to talk to him again and see if he has any plans in life and if not move on. You can't sit here with a guy who doesn't want to do anything.0