I'm a young, smart, attractive (nothing special really but far from ugly) woman. I'm pretty sociable, have a normal amount of friends, go out a lot and kiss people, all normal. I'm fun, can talk about a lot of different things, have great personal hygiene and sense of humor. Yet I've never had a boyfriend and don't seem to be getting one anytime soon. I tried everything (I even tried stop trying) and nope, no luck. I just feel really empty and like I'm missing on something. I guess hooking up is just not enough anymore. What am I doing wrong?
Most Helpful Guy
Well, one possibility is demographics. If you're on a liberal arts campus or in manhattan or LA, the numbers are working hard against you.
Second, while it's not unheard of for hook ups to turn into relationships, I wouldn't suggest it to women as the main way of meeting people. Instead look for guys who want to go out on dates with you. And be clear that's what you're looking for. Playing it cool so you don't scare off guys with 'commitment' talk actually pushes off guys who WANT commitment.0
Most Helpful Girl
I bet you could get a boyfriend with relative ease. So when you hook up, do you go approach the guy yourself? Because that's like 70% of the battle lol. Maybe instead of hooking up, you could approach a guy and ask for his number, or invite him to coffee, or whatever strikes your fancy. Just let him know you're interested in more than a one-night deal and pretty soon, someone will probably take you up on it.0