Is see situations like this a lot and I've never understood it.
1) A couple will be out and the guy goes to the washroom and when he comes back, there's a guy talking to his girl. So he beats the shit out of the random guy.
2) A girl looks through her bfs phone and sees that he's been dirty talking with some random girl. The girlfriend calls up the other girl and says that if she doesn't step off her boyfriend, she's going to get her ass whopped.
3) A girlfriend finds out her SO has been having an affair. She finds the other woman and reems her out in public.. but forgives her boyfriend without a second thought.
I am a very level headed person so I've never understood situations like these. I've been cheated on and I would never think of going after the person that my SO cheated with, they are not the ones that made the promise to stay faithful to me..
I've also been the person to walk up to a guy at a club (when no girls are around him) and start chatting him up, seeing that he's into it. When a girl runs up and starts screaming at me, like I am supposed to know that this guy I just met has a girlfriend.
Someone please explain how one can be mad at the person tempting your SO, but not be mad at your SO for being tempted.
Most Helpful Guy
You are trying to solve a problem with logic when it's all about emotions. Also, it's easier to be mad at a total stranger than it is to be mad at your SO. with your SO, you have to deal with consequences. Them not talking to you for a while, having the problem thrown in your face all the time for a while, the hassle of constantly having to fight, etc. You can hate a stranger without consequences for as long as you want.3
Most Helpful Girl
Yeah I hate this. If my boyfriend cheated, I wouldn't attack the girl but him. If he didn't respond to her how can she seduce him?
Many people are too afraid to confront their SO because they don't want them to leave. Blaming other people also helps them to feel better that their SO *was* actually not like that before she/he met the *third* person.1