I currently have the pleasure of working under a brilliant female officer under special circumstances. She's mature, intelligent, and a high flyer in her career. I'm several years her junior and barely started on my career ladder.
We enjoyed regular conversations at work, and began texting each other a couple months back (mostly work related stuff after office hours). She initiated our first text conversation then, and we've maintained the light-hearted exchange ever since. In the last couple of weeks, we even had conversations that stretches from when we knock off from work till near midnight.
The catch is this: neither of us had the experience of an intimate relationship. I noticed that she is particularly demure when we're alone, and doesn't open up as much in her interactions with the many other males in our workplace (out of character for someone at her position). I feel that I should muster up courage and ask her our on a date, but I'm still technically her subordinate at a workplace where females struggle to gain equal footing with males.
Said working arrangements will end in a few month's time - so will the basis of our daily interaction. Any thoughts?
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maybe you could sort of start making inroads while you two are still working together. perhaps just asking her to go out for a meal sometime. you could at some time sort of explain your feelings and intentions and see what she says. if she feels the same way but is uncomfortable with the workplace dynamics then like you said in a few months that will no longer be an issue
waiting could work but anything can happen in that time0