I'm 20 years old and I have never had any romantic contact to guys. My looks are kind of average (pretty face, slightly chubby) but my personality apparently is very attractive to people. (That's what I've been told by others who have met me.)
I do notice that there are guys who think I'm attractive, however, I'm very shy and have no experience, so I don't really approach anyone. Plus, a lot of guys in my age group already have a girlfriend and the ones that didn't have one and I tried to flirt with weren't interested in me. So how do I find someone who: a) is single? (no online dating, I tried it and it's terrible) b) is interested in me?
Aww! You are so sweet. I'm sure you look beautiful. Some men, like myself, do the approaching. You just have to be a little vulnerable, and be in a situation where someone would ask you out. You know, go to where your type of men are. It's a shame that you are not interested in online dating. I give everyone a chance, but that's just me.
To get a guy interested in you, you need to sell yourself as a complete package. Notice how even dingy women can get guys? This is because they are most likely attractive, take good care of themselves and are in shape. Guys really do not see the personality right away as that takes time. We are "window shoppers".
b) If you think someone is interested in you, you can like socialize with him, get to know him and see how he responds. If he's excited to talk to you, how he looks at you, maybe nervous a) When getting to know him, you could like slip the relationship status in a little, all sneakily xD
Hang out at places where there are a lot of single guys (bars, clubs) ask your friends for advice on meeting guys and they'l probably prattle on about their philosophy and then tell you about some single guys they know and set you up
in terms of actually approaching, usually if you try to get to know a single guy he will give you a chance as most people hate having to approach random people and risk rejection but just don't seem desperate
Approaching a guy is simple just go to him, say something random, start small talk. If he interests you he will most likely to continue and start new conversations. Which will lead to dating. After sometime ask him to go out or encourge him to ask you. I believe you can understand if he is single. If you are not sure You may ask him nicely. If you are shy make someone ask for you. Also don't totaly ignore your friends who are experienced. Looks like thats it. Good luck!
I agree online dating is terrible i imagine speed dating would be better since your meeting them in person that's if you have the courage for it though i haven't tried it yet my self. A face is a lot better than a photo that might be them.