I've been talking with this girl for about 2 weeks now, and our relationship cannot progress further because she values what her parents think of her, and they don't like black people. After a few more conversations about it i found out that she has never actually had a serious relationship because of her parents (she doesn't even have many friends because of them). Ideas to get past this?
Most Helpful Girl
To be honest you don't, because she has to understand that her parents are in the wrong. There is nothing that you can do. Except do two things: Either you bare with the racism of her parents, or let it go. Because this is a lot more bite than you can chew. Its not you, its her. And she has to learn to honor her parents but know when they are in the wrong. They can't control her life, she has to make that decision. So I don't know how old she is. But unless she learns to stand on her own two feet, move out, and start her own life. This will continue to be her problem wither she's with or without you. This is her baggage. She's going to have to make serious choices.4
Most Helpful Guy
Wow that's tough. Have you asked her if you can meet and talk to the parents? I live in the South and as you can imagine that type of thinking is still somewhat prevalent with older families. My friend brought his black girlfriend home and his parents initially said they refused to meet her. But she won them over by being perfect I mean perfect that night. He is now married to her and they adore her.
I don't have advice for you outside of you have to meet the parents and win them over, only way to do that is to get her to bring you over.0