so i have a boyfriend, and a male friend. my boyfriend can't give me happiness, my male friend can. however my male friend has a crush on me and i know he wants to date. but i love my boyfrd and im stuck in between on what to do now.
Unfortunately, we can't choose who we love, it just happens. Sometimes, these people can make us completely miserable and a relationship would be a disaster (take it from me, I've been there).
Relationships need to be based on more than just sparks and feelings, because those come and go over time. It sounds like your friend will definitely be able to make you more happy in the long run and it's quite possible that you could fall in love with him eventually. Guys like your friend will always be the one's you know will treat you properly and put you ahead of themselves. The best relationships are based on friendship.
I'd go for love any day even if it means it's gonna be hell till I die but does your boyfriend know he doesn't make you happy? Have you ever told him what you want so he can fulfil your expectations? Or do you just expect him to do stuff?
Your boyfriend doesn't make you happy. In fact you'd probably already have dumped him if it weren't for your male friend meeting emotional needs.
You won't be happy with your male friend, or make him happy either, because you don't really want him.
Dump boyfriend, create more distance form male friend, find a guy you want to date who makes you happy. And if you're really a 'friend' to that guy? Help him get laid and find a girl who wants to be his girlfriend.
A boyfriend should never be responsible for your happiness. That's your job! You have to make yourself happy. And if he is bringing you down, he shouldn't be your boyfriend in the first place. Life is too short to spend it with people who don't add joy to your life. Don't stay with someone just because you have feelings for them.
Love - if you're with the right person , because they can enrich your life. Happiness is only a temporary emotion , not a permanent state. At least whenever you feel unhappy and face sad times , you have someone by your side who cares about you. You don't have to go through it alone
Usually I would say love, but in this situation I would go for happiness. But also remember that it really isn't a great idea to date your best friend. Because god forbid you fight and stuff, they won't be your best friend anymore.