I feel like I missed out on being able to pursue a relationship with girls when they found out I wouldn't do certain things. Tim Tebow had a good relationship going one time and the girl left him because he wouldn't have sex with her. So ladies feed back please.
I think it is about values on both sides... if the person cares about you they will respect you and your wishes... using Tim Tebow as an example is a good way to put this in perspective... he kneels in the end zone and the NFL is all over him, others kneel during the National Anthem and look what happens... so going back to what you ask... No it is not a turn off for those who value the same thing... there are others who would never marry you or go any further with you without sleeping with you first... it is like some want to know " the total package" of what they are getting... others, that is not important... it is all in THE VIEW of the person... sorry so long hope it makes sense
It would be for me because I didn't personally wait for marriage to have sex and I don't think that it's valuable or important to do so. I don't want to wait years in a relationship before we can be sexually intimate and I don't want to end up married to someone that I'm totally sexually incompatible with.
Let's put it this way... it's not a turn off... to the right woman. If you are set on maintaining your virgin status until marriage, why would you want to be with a woman who isn't willing to respect that. There isn't anything wrong with her for not wanting that, and there is equally nothing wrong with you for wanting what you want, you just both need to find the right people whom you are compatible with.
Not at all for the right person! Marriage is all about sharing the similar morals, values and beliefs so finding a lady who appreciates your conviction. Personally it wasn't for me, so I found someone who felt that way also 😊
I'd like it. I feel weirdly jealous of my future husband's past partners. I know it's irrational, but it's probably just because I'm a virgin and waiting so he can be my first, last, and only. So I feel like it's unfair that I can't be his only.
For me it's a neutral since I was saving myself up to a certain point where I started to doubt the whole marriage thing. I think that you need to find a girl who is on the same page as you, and to not wait too long before getting married. I don't mean marry in 6 months but don't wait more than 3 years because she'll get frustrated and resent you.
Yes, it can be. Mostly because I'll assume you're super religious and obviously don't even understand how marriage worked back then. Basically we probably wouldn't get on. Also the super religious types tend to be hypocrites.
Depends on how long he plans to wait. In my 20's I was fine with it. In my 30's it seemed like a less noble idea, and I was more anxious to get down to business. Now that I am in my 40's that only sounds like a good plan for teenagers who plan on getting married right after graduating from college. Anything longer than that, and life is just passing you by.
For a guy to live by such a rule, first thing that pops to mind in girls is "he probably sucks in bed". No offense to you but, is your libido non existent. Some guys can't go two days without sexual release..
Well, in my experience, I haven't delt with it as a turn off. I'm saving myself for marriage and I look for a girl who does the same.
I am 28 and saving myself till marriage 😊
I know where you are coming from. I was raised with Christian beliefs and I've had the idea of saving myself for marriage. However I have had so many painful, horrible experiences of being rejected for being too "nice" that saving myself would be the purest form of this.
I consistently have sex with my beautiful young girlfriend. It's fun, but a part of me feels guilty.
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