He left his Facebook up and the girl I was already having concerns about messages him and his reply 'we have so much in common and I find you pretty attractive.' Now I don't trust him and I can't stop thinking about it. I feel betrayed and lied to. A week before this happened I told him that I thought something was going on between them and here I find that something looks like it's starting. He tells me that he loves me and is sorry. But how am I suppose to trust him. I feel as if I've been cheated on. How do I move past this in my relationship?
Most Helpful Guy
i think this is hard to get past. he is essentially emotionally cheating as he is clearly flirting with and entertaining thoughts of other women
so the question really is should you get over it? if you truly believe he is sorry and it won't happen again then it's a matter of re-building the trust that was damaged when he betrayed you. so just try to remember that people make mistakes and he wants to make amends for them
but i don't think you have to get past it and if you struggle to trust him you are plenty justified0
Most Helpful Girl
Obviously you won't trust him. If you hadn't seen the message, we all already know how much further it would get eventually. Could still happen really.
And says he loves you etc... Actions speak louder than words. Girls need to stop listening to words and start actually watching what a man does. There are always so many signs girls choose to ignore or "work through together because I love him" and then later on when he truly fucks her over, wonder what went wrong.
For real, stay with him if you want, but don't take it seriously. He obviously isn't. Don't put everything into this dude. Only do that for a guy who actually shows he's worth it, not just tells you he's worth it.0