I alwayssss get super nervous before the first date lol I'm always worried we won't have anything to talk about and it will be awkward. I especially hate the whole paying situation considering it's so inconsistent these days
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Most Helpful Guy
As far as who pays, whoever asked who out pays. I had a girl ask me out once. She wasn't a friend, ore of an associate I occasionally saw around work. I agreed to meet her for lunch (perfect first date BTW). I got a cheap sandwich and she got some crazy seafood platter that was about about $38. When the bill came she was like "Thanks so much for lunch, it was amazing!" I gave her $12 to cover my sandwich and tip. She got pissed and called me a cheapskate. She went on to state it was my job as the man to pay. I told her if I asked her out, I would pay. We didn't see each other again.
I say the lunch date is perfect for a few reasons. First, lunch dates are short. There's a time limit so to speak because parties either have to go back to work or school. The also helps with what you wear on the date. In addition to the time limit, lunch menus are generally cheaper than dinner menus, so you save a few bucks.
Lunch dates also negate the need to plan events for an entire night to entertain the other person. There are minimal distractions so you can actually talk to the other person. If it goes well, you set up another date. If not, you separate ways drama free.3
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Most Helpful Girl
It is always a thing that makes you very uncomfortable. I mean I love going on dates but the thoughts before them are often almost the same, no matter on how you met... "do i look good enough but not too either?", "what if we have nothing to say? What if I say something stupid?", "is he a good guy? How do I know?", "do I like him enough to give him another date, but I haven't even went on the first one yet...", "what if I fall for him and he doesn't even ask me out anymore?", "what if he is mean or crazy? Should we meet somewhere more in public?"4
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