Its strange to me. you're not only committing to a person you're committing to parenthood. How could you just immediately switch to being a father/mother when you didn't get to be there from the start. Its like catching a movie midway through. Being responsible for a life. Thats heavy. Not only that but sacrificing your freedom for this person and their child. And even though you love this person there would be other people to love. Other people without kids from a different wo/man. So how much is love worth?
Could you do it?
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I'm a guy who has done it and it's incredibly difficult. Especially when there's an ex (the father) still in the picture and they hate each other. You basically have spent your whole dating life being number one and making your partner fee like number one and now you are not, she still is but not me any more. You come in second place maybe third place with 2 kids and maybe fourth place when there's two kids and an ex husband. But then in thinking abut breaking up you're not just leaving one person you're breaking the little hearts of others who did nothing wrong to warrant being "dumped". its definitely easier to meet a singe person, fall in love and create a family together and even that's NOT easy.1