OK I'm warning you from the start this is gonna be a long post lol. I met this guy who I thought was just a bartender in Oct. turns out he owns it as well. I gave him my number the night I met him while he was working and always had to make the first move. Asking to hang out, making out, sleeping together yada yada. Except for one time, he was drunk and asked me to hang out 2 days later, but then bailed as usual. He is very shy and thought he liked me. A few months later he calls things off and his reasoning was because he didn't want to lead me on. (I was confused by this cause I was making all the moves and not ever mentioning a relationship or anything. Not ready for something serious at all)
He then one night told me his real reason was because he felt like I always wanted to hang out. He owns a bar and goes to school so I would makes plans with him and he would for whatever reason have to bail so I would ask about another day. That was what he saw as wanting to hang out too much. If he actually hung out with me one of those days I wouldn't of had to ask for another day. I told him I only wanted to hang out once a week outside the bar and he thought that was a great idea and wanted to know the catch. There is none and he was on board, but the next time I asked him to hang out it was a different story.
We still talk and for the past few weeks he's been talking to me more and staring at me all the time. One of my friends went out with me and when we left she was like omg he was like stalker staring at you. Which naturally made me happy ha ha. I just don't know what he wants now. Does he just want sex? (Oh right see he wasn't for the having sex at first because he never took me out anywhere or anything, at that point I didn't require it and eventually got him into bed) Or would he actually want to hang out? Cause I would like to actually hang out this time and work towards having sex again. Is that ever possible?
I really do like this guy, but I don't want things to be too serious and I also don't want to ask him to hang out again and make an ass out of myself if he says no. I know the most common response is going to be wait for him to make a move, but he wont. He won't with any girl he's just so shy. So I don't want to wait too long and have some other make the first move on him and my game be over...
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When he said he didn't want to lead you on, he meant it. He isn't looking for anything that even resembles a relationship at this point. On the other hand if you go to him and straight up just say that you aren't looking for a relationship either and tell him that you just want him as an FWB (that's what it sounds like your looking for sorry if I misinterpreted it), he will probably be less hesitant about spending time with you because honestly, what guy that isn't in a relationship doesn't want at least one FWB that they can rely on.0