So recently, my boyfriend showed me his texts because i was curious what he and his friends (mostly girls) chat about. And there's this girl he's really close to. And when i opened his texts with her, there were some sexual jokes. And they even exchanged "I love you"s and "I miss you"s. I got REALLY hurt and sad because i think he's supposed to say those to only me. So now my boyfriend knows how i feel and he assured me that he only says that as a friend and he only loves me. He said that he says i love you in a friend way as well. But I don't know, it really affects me. He told me that he will stop saying that to friends and only to me. I don't know if i shld trust him or not, but he told me that he's going to keep a distance from the girl to prevent me from worrying. But now the thing is that whatever he said to another girl can't get off my head. Whenever he texts me "i love you" or "i miss you", the texts he sent to that girl will come back to my mind and I'll be really affected. And whenever he says sweet stuff like "i wish you were here" i automatically link it to that girl and think if he says that to her as well. i really dont know what to do. im afraid that this will affect our relationship. sometimes it's hard for me to reply his "i love you"s and "i miss you"s now.
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Well... Just saying, he really seems like a complete player to me. I mean, even if he and that other girl were close etc he shouldn't have been messaging her like that while he's dating you, that's not right. And you said it yourself, you aren't sure whether to trust him or not, and that in itself is a bad sign. If you're already questioning whether to even trust him, then it's pretty much already almost over. Relationships are built off of trust, trust is the foundation. If there's not even trust, there can never be anything stable built on top of it. Go with your heart, you're the one who knows him, not me. If you feel uncomfortable around him now, you should just breakup with him since those feelings most likely won't ever go away. If you feel fine and normal, stay with him and things will eventually fix themselves!0
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