I like having sex. I also am interested in having a committed relationship, and am in the process of dating. For me personally I like to have sex early on in the relationship. It's fun! Why not? I am a strong person and have never felt that this means I am a "slut" or "whore." Many people view me as "too easy" though and think that this is why guys are not committing to be with me. I hate that sex is seen as a tool to get a guy to commit, but I am starting to see no alternatives? Am I going to have to give up having sex in order to try to find a guy truly interested in me? Any feedback is appreciated, especially if you have been in similar situations.
Most Helpful Guy
Eh depends. If you're "too" available so to speak, then you tend to be less interesting or valuable to a guy, unless you luck out and bump into a good guy you have great chemistry with that you hit it off with. I've had sex with girls I never talked to again and I've had sex with girls that became my girlfriend shortly there after. Having sex too soon wasn't the issue. It had everything to do with our chemistry and who she was as a person. One girl was someone that cheated on all of her boyfriend's. That showed me some about her character and her baggage. Not something I wanted part in.
The other girl was legitimately funny and made me laugh. Was just a cool girl. Conversation could go to any given topic and it was always interesting. Sexual flirting was effortless. No try hard feeling to it. Ended up having sex on our first date (technically before the date). Ended up dating her for 2 years.1
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Most Helpful Girl
Instead of worrying about how to use sex as a tool, focus on finding partners that aren't assholes who think that their penises make you dirty or lesser from touching them.1