Let me explain, when I was in school I always kept getting rejected because I was that kind of douchebag nerd who only went after the hottest girls. And I remeber when I was told I needed to lower my standards and possible date a chubby girl it bothered me a lot. I hated the fact that I was in a position where couldnt get the prettiest girl.
When I started at university I wanted to work on myself so I immediately began lifting and now 2+ years later I've become really muscular, not crazy huge, but I am buffer than most guys.
And when you are at the gym you see all these super gorgeous girls with fit bodies, big round butts from all the squats they do, fit figure and all that and I feel as if I deserve that kind of girl.
In other words, I didn't put 600+ hours in at the gym so I could end up dating a fat or mediocre girl. Am I wrong for thinking that?
Most Helpful Girl
You probably can get a sexy gym girl, but if you lose track that she's a human being and not a status symbol you "earned" ... you're going to make her (and eventually yourself) miserable. I had a long relationship with a guy like that myself - a "nerd" on a power trip. It's ugly. He kept working for all these things that proved he was valuable, but could never figure out why people still didn't like him.
Focus on getting along and respecting her, not seeing her as a prize you won. Same goes for your career, your belongings, your body. Be grateful and feel good about them, but don't base your entire self worth on "beating" the other guys.4
Most Helpful Guy
Get the word "deserve" out of your vocabulary. It's just a toxic word that breeds toxic entitlement and delusions of your own self-worth. Especially, in terms of "deserving" women since they are under no obligation to act in a way you desire.
Your looks actually don't matter as much as you think they do. You're not getting those hot girls because they don't like your personality. It's not that there's something *wrong* with your personality, it's just not interesting or desired by the girls you are attracted to.
I used to be a shy, nerdy guy who was quite muscular and fit but I was too in my own head and my conversations with women never felt natural and, as you would expect, I had terrible luck with "hot" girls. After a lot of self-growth, I find really attractive women flirting with me and my luck is the complete opposite despite being in comparatively worse shape physically.2