I have been dating this girl for about two months. She claims she cares about me but I can't tell. I'm afraid to get played out again. Last girl was a nightmare. What are some signs I should be looking for? Please help!!
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A great sign is if she is willing to go out of her way for you just to do something nice because you like. It's a sign that your needs and wants are important to her as well. Which should be a foundation of any relationship (IMPORTANT: this is a two way street. Her needs should be important to you as well.) Relationships are a give and take thing. Where 2 people are continuly (note I did not say equally) giving themselves to their partner and receiving those givings as a gift, a blessing.
As a foot note to my above note, I would like to add that the reason why I don't believe any couple can give equally at one given moment is because as individuals we have different emotional needs on a given day, a given hour honestly. And due those needs, we need different levels of support and different level of interaction to valid our on emotional egos. As a Christian, I will say that we should not be looking to our spouse to meet our every need (we have a God that meets those needs); but, we should look to our SO to help us meet the needs of our community and to do the work Chris will have us to do, with God's aid of course.
But if you are talking about money and beauty, you can compare your net worth with your spouse or potential other and you can compare your beauty, but I am not sure if that will make you happy in the long run. Becuase when You compare those things you will always think I want more, I can do better. And than you will start nit-picking because of one little hair that is out of place or if you make one dollar more than your spouse, and you will find yourself asking "why am I even married? I'm better by myself! I can just find a guy/girl with a great personality were we have at least a small connection to sleep with, someone I don't feel any pressure to commit to, someone I don't feel any responsibility for, someone who can be a friend. A friend I can sleep with! (A friend with benifits). "
Or you can compare how good they are in the bed room, as well as compare how intelligent your spouse or potential other is on social, economical, or even political topics but I am sure that in a while those topics will lead to boredom, that you will start to feel that life is more then what you learn in a book or the drama of the political scene, that life and compatiblity is more then what happens in the bedroom because the way she chews is so annoying and the way he leaves his socks around the house. You can compare a lot of things. But when you compare1