I used to have a crush on my best guy friend (let's call him Daniel) and he knows I did and we passed through that stage. My boyfriend at first wasn't comfortable with the idea of me still texting Daniel but he was willing to let it happen. But then Daniel asked to me to go eat somewhere with him. I assumed he asked because we're friends and he wanted to catch up. While my boyfriend thinks Daniel is trying to flirt with me and ask me out on a date. We got into a huge fight over it but eventually I decided to choose my boyfriend over Daniel. Now every time Daniel texts me I have the urge to reply but my boyfriend doesn't let me. Is it unfair? Am I right or is my boyfriend right?
Plus I think Daniel is gay.
Most Helpful Guy
All I have to say is that if you believe it's disrespectful then don't do it. Think about it and put yourself in his shoes, how would you feel if he did the same thing, honestly? Just remember, the grass is always greenest where you water it. Give that guy attention and eventually you'll get more and more comfortable with him to the point that you'll start thinking your boyfriend has you trapped. It's what happened with my ex. She started texting this coworker and I told her I didn't like it but didn't do anything about it. A couple months later she dumped my ass because she wanted to do herself.1
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think it's OK to dictate who you can talk to or not. He is your friend and you can talk to him. I understand his concern for alone time though. I personally wouldn't like my partner hanging out alone with a ex crush. I'd be cool with the 3 of us hanging out though or in a group environment. But alone time with a friend is a no no to me and neither me or my boyfriend do it out of respect for each other :)
But it's not right to completely ban you from speaking to him. This is wrong and insecure of your boyfriend.0