I'm only 20 y/o but I know that I want to have children someday. I adore babies and toddlers, but also feel protective of people only a few years younger than me. I've been told I would be a really great mother, which makes me happy as I'd love to have four kids one day. Anyway, since this is so important, when in a relationship should I tell a guy about wanting children? I understand that I'm young and the boy I'm dating currently most likely won't be the boy I'm dating years down the line, but I don't know that I'm compatible with someone who never wants children. Being nurturing and motherly is part of who I am, but how do I show that without scaring my boyfriend away? How do you even talk about a subject at my age? Just looking for some advice.
Most Helpful Guy
ok just skip all the technical parts, just skip straight to what you want. imagine you have a kid now. you´re dead tired, cause it´s crying all the time, you´ve not been sleeping more than 3 hours in one go for months and you still feel the pain of giving birt. what does it feel like. do you think everything is set? do you think he´s the right partner? are you able to propperly raise the child and fullfill the obligations it brings?
wanting a child is of course not wrong. having one just because you want one is wrong. having a child isn´t about you. it´s about the child. if you can answer the question:"is this the best time for a new human to be born and raised by you?" with a resounding yes, then you can start actually consider thinking about having one.0
Most Helpful Girl
I think you should tell the guy as soon as possible. I doubt it would scare off anyone who's genuinely interested in being in a serious relationship with you.0