It seems like a majority of guys know only want hookups so I was wondering what makes a guy want a girl for more than just a hookup what makes him want to date her/ be with her. What's that thing you're looking for
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I'd say it's very rare indeed for a guy who's hooking up to think, "Isn't this random woman just perfect for me?" And if that actually happened, would it be based on anything more than superficial qualities?
He's got to be in a place in his life where he wants a permanent relationship more than he wants to fuck random women. There's no magic beyond that. If you're looking for "the one" in a place where guys look for hookups, you're in the wrong place. Trying to "make him," as you say, is the wrong strategy.
It's not that I don't find many, many women sexually attractive, but I've never felt comfortable having sex with anyone who wasn't already a good friend. It just felt weird. I don't know if that makes me the best or the worst person to answer your question, but it seems to me you've got the order all wrong. Relationship first, then sex. Not sex, then relationship. Because you're right, guys who are hooking up will have already gotten what they wanted. Online dating might be your best bet for finding someone who is compatible with you insofar as wanting the same thing out of a relationship.2