I am developmentally delayed. Of course, I have Aspergers.
But the women my age seem more mature than me and more difficult to please than a girl who is around 17-18ish.
I am 22. It just seems girls in their 20s have more experience with relationships and heartbreak and have a lot more tougher skin when it comes to relationships than I do.
I never had an actual girlfriend before.
I probably answered my own question, but I want to ask, is this normal?
- Normal for someone like you with barely any experience52%(12)55%(18)Vote60%(6)
- No, that is abnormal even for you17%(4)12%(4)Vote0%(0)
- Other (explain)17%(4)15%(5)Vote10%(1)
- See poll14%(3)18%(6)Vote30%(3)
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What you probably don't know, studies have found that for people with Aspergers in general no matter what kind of relationship it is, (friendship etc) they tend to be attracted to people younger or older than then but rarely those who are the same age. BUT I just want to say it is NOT a good idea to be thinking of starting a relationship with a teenager. I get all of your reasons, I really do, but 99.9% of them are not ready for an adult relationship. That's just, the way it is.
And, from someone who's been there before, it's not about how experienced you are, but how genuine you are towards the women you like. If you just pick her because she's pretty and that's it, it's going to be harder than if you like her because of having things in common. A good place to start is joining a university club or volunteering for the Student Union. This way you already have something in common with the people you meet there and you get to have a whole bunch of experiences you wouldn't have otherwise.
I wish you well trying to figure it out. It's truly lifes greatest puzzle
- A fellow Aspie2