The guy I'm in love with has a girlfriend and he's given me so many reasons to hate him but I just end up going back to him. He makes it very clear he loves his girlfriend and I'm just the side chick... what do I do to get over him?
Most Helpful Guy
1. Start by actually wanting to move on.
2. Think about yourself with other guys
3. Actually go out with and flirt with other guys
4. Realize that whatever feelings you have for him you can also feel with someone else (dating guys you're actually attracted to will make this infinitely clear).
It's like this. You always get, what you actively "don't" want. If you're constantly thinking about "not having" feelings for him, then you are still focused on your feelings for him and will get more of the same.
But if you focus on the actual feeling and having that with other guys, then you'll be more likely to move on faster. Moving on only happens after you accept what happened, let go of the obsession. Allowing yourself to have feelings with other guys is a part of that. Even if it's just a crush.
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Most Helpful Girl
cut him off. it's the only way. it will hurt but here's how you do it.
start thinking about all his bad traits and how much you dislike him. then think about all the bs he's pulled on you. think "HOW DARE HE, WHAT A JERK."
soon that anger will fuel your ability to stay away. eventually that anger will turn into indifference.
get self righteous, love youself, ask about what you deserve.1