Why are men so one sided? My boyfriend went through my phone and found a video of me dancing with a guy at a party, but it wasn't really anything serious, but being the fact that Im in a relationship, it was wrong of me. I once told him I dont ever dance with guys at parties so him seeing that video makes him think that I been lying to him the whole time when Im not. It was just that one time so he broke up with me over that. A couple days later, I show one of my classmates his picture and she told me she saw him at homecoming once, dancing with a drunk girl, but this was before the whole situation happened with him going through my phone. If i were to be upset about that, he would make it seem like i am over exaggerating. Also, when he's upset. its a long process but if I were to stay upset, then it would be a problem to them. Why is it like that?
Most Helpful Guy
When your boyfriend found the video of you dancing with this guy, he had evidence supporting you having done something that you told him you didn't... Big time violation of trust there. Even your phrase "not *really* a big deal" leads me to think you did kind of think it was a big deal.
Your friend claiming they saw this guy dancing with a drunk girl at some party... is a claim. It could be a case of mistaken identity or it could be that they were trying to make you feel better about what happened by saying your boyfriend did almost the exact same thing as you. You should be cautious when it comes to just believing the claims of another individual when they provide no evidence for them. I can understand why the idea of him doing the same thing might sound so appealing to believe that you don't filter it through your senses of reason, though... because it takes the guilt off of you for any mistakes if he did the same thing.
With that said, if he really did the same thing you did and left you for it, he's a hypocrite and you don't need him.3
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Most Helpful Girl
No... lots of guys don't act that way at all. Honestly guys on here can have a lot of self pity for some reason. I've noticed it a lot, and many other users have too. So... you may get some srsly one sided opinions on this! On avg, no most guys are balanced and fair. I think many, care way too much about when their gfs are upset over silly things!!0