When you started a new relationship, how long did it take you before you said the words, "I love you" to your significant other? Is there such thing as love at first sight?
Most Helpful Guy
about 4.5 months0
Most Helpful Girl
I still haven't. We've been on/off texting since around April, but didn't really start seeing each other till June/July. Nothing romantic happened before late September. Then I went away for 3,5 weeks, and we texted and called every day and one day he said he loved me. I was really surprised because we've not really spent all that much time together - the meets have been far in between. I couldn't say it back though. This is the first time I've felt this strongly about a person and I haven't been in a relationship before. Maybe that's why I'm holding back.. Sometimes I feel it would be natural for me to tell him I love him, but I don't. I need that one, defining feeling that makes me absolutely sure this guy is for me. I don't want to say it back just to make him happy. I have to mean it. Those words are special and much too exhausted by tired brands, marketing and superficial relationships. When I say it, I want there to be no doubt in my mind at all. I have to get a clear vision of him when I read/hear/say those words. So far, his outline is there, but I need the rest. Some parts of him are missing before I can complete the person I think I might come to love. I don't dismiss that you can love parts of a person, but you can't tell a person you love them before you've seen them at their best and worst. If you can love every single part of that significant other, then that's the real deal. It's not about how long you've spent together, it's how much you know about each other. Love at first sight? I don't believe that. There's attraction, infatuation and compulsion at first sight, but not love. Not the way I define it, at least. It roots too deep to develop just from sight. x2