Me and this guy were dating for little over 4 months. Everything was great, never had a fight. I have met his friends and family. He gave me the keys to his home. For the last four weeks I have been living with him bc of problems with the train and that I could not get home. The only way I could get home was taking the bus to the closest town and walk 10km, he told me I could stay at his place. He didn't like me walking on the road at night (live in Norway so it gets dark around 1600).
Anyways, I had the talk about us, and he told me he found it scary to go from dating to official relationship. I was so hurt, but told him I appreciate the honest and that we just weren't on the same page anymore. He called, texted and told me that we he just doesn't like to rush things and that he cares for me so much and does not want to lose me. Invites me to talk and figure things out, but when we met (at a coffeeshop) we didn't say much about it and went home more confused.. I've been feeling so sad and heartbroken and it really sucks. I just want it back to the way we used to talk. He told me he had bought a reindeer meet for us to eat and asked me to come to dinner today. I told him yes, but only as a friend. I need to get my things from him and also give back the key. He told me I could hold on to the key, but I said no.
I want a relationship but he is not ready for this!
What should I do? Stop talking to him? Give him space?
Guys i I would really love feedback from you and the best way to handle this.
Most Helpful Guy
It strikes me that *you* are the one ending it, not him. It appears he doesn't want a label on the r/ship, but you insist on having one.
R/ships don't have to be put in a box. If you and he were happy with the way things were before you had the "it needs to be official" conversation, then go back to the way things were.
I suggest focusing on the r/ship, not the label you apply to the r/ship, and not how you describe the r/ship to others.0
Most Helpful Girl
A lot of people start off as just "friends dating" which means they don't necessarily love them but they want to see where things go because they think they could live them. He might just be scared of being hurt but by the sounds of things he really cares about you. I think you acted a bit too quick and should of waited longer. Saying that you want your stuff and giving him the key back might make him think that you want it over. You should have a proper sit down with him again and just talk. Don't act to rashly. Good luck0