Lots of questions out there about finding "the one" and when you knew, but here's the flip, what made you realize the person you were with was NOT the one you wanted to spend your life with? Assuming you guys were planning for it.
Most Helpful Guy
It's funny, when my ex and I first started dating I had the feeling that she wasn't the one and after a while when I fell in love with her I thought that she really was the one. Now that we're broken up, it's obvious that she wasn't the one. Honestly, you just need to look for the flags and what's important for you and if the things that are important to you aren't met and there are some flags about how she/he really feels about you then she/he is most likely not the one. I think you just know deep down inside.1
Most Helpful Girl
People really need to stop with this: finding 'the one' business. I notice this to be a very unhealthy thing to do. We are responsible to CHOSE our partner. To throughly evaluate, question and observe. To make RATIONAL decisions. And how ones choices today will effect the other person. 9/10x this has to do with naiveness, immaturity, lust and indecisiveness. Potential dating partners have to meet a certain criteria that is well though out, reasonable and manageable. They have to qualify in your eyes. At some point, if your not willing to invest your time in such a person for whatever reason, is to make that perfectly clear from the get-go instead of wasting weeks and months. Always read the signs and have wise counsel of good trusted friends and family who has no problem telling you right from wrong, and not just for your best interest.2
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