not just general things like alone time or the ability to hang out with certain female friends. but what do y'all fight over? im trying to see if dating is ever in my best interest again bc im afraid to get stuck with another guy thats a control freak that orders me around and won't let me have pets, tells me i spend too much time getting ready, tells me what to wear or tries to control what i can and can't spend money on or eat. just give me a heads up!
Most Helpful Guy
Yeah, you pretty much have it down. I would say getting married was probably the biggest mistake of my life. Granted, it was the wrong person but most people would have been a better choice, I don't believe that any choice would have been good. The biggest things I lost were control over the finances. My ex-wife was an exorbitant spender and even though I made between $380k-$410k/year, there were some months where we lived paycheck to paycheck. In addition, she has a pretty good career herself and made about $105k/year. Yet, she would never contribute a penny of her salary towards joint bills, savings, and investments. Whenever I brought it up, it would turn into this weird "Who are you to tell me how to spend MY money?" and blah blah blah. She ended up moving into her own room and... oh man. It was just the worst years of my life.
My advice to everyone is just don't do it. There are things that I did in life when I was younger because people told me that they'd make me happier and to be honest, a lot of those things were correct. Going to college was a good idea. Concentrating on my career was a good idea. Having kids? I didn't want them and against my instincts I had two of them -- greatest choice I ever made as those girls are amazing. But getting married? Pass on that one.0
Most Helpful Girl
It depends on who you're committing to, how much you're willing to give away, and what you think should and shouldn't happen.
Uhm, it's all based on individual dynamics.
My commitment meant: not talking to guys as much, not being able to form strong male friendships (which hasn't been an issue bc I have like 0 male friends and basically haven't since puberty.), he doesn't want me to dress with my assets out (but I dress how I want).0