Not her sexual past (!) but her past in general.
I've never been in a relationship and I'm afraid if I'll ever be they'll start questioning me and digging and then leave me when they find out that I was physically abused throughout my childhood by my father and later heavily bullied in school :( There was a period when I used to self harm, experimented with drugs and tried to commit suicide a few times and I became badly anorexic. I still have some problems with food today but besides that I am completely fine, unless you start questioning. I guess my question is would finding this out about a girl you're seeing drive you away because you're afraid she's a psycho or something? Or would it bother you not knowing about a girls past in that sense at all if you were in a relationship with her? Would you pressure her to tell you and leave her if it turns out it was not as you expected?
Most Helpful Guy
I do care about a girl's past. Maybe it sounds cheesy, but I wanna know everything about the girl I'm in a relationship with. I don't expect her to tell me right away, but as we get more comfortable together and build the trust, I hope to know everything, especially important things.
The reason is not just because I wanna know about her, but because I wanna know what type of morals and ethics she has.
In your case, it doesn't seem like you did anything bad, except for the drugs, but I guess that's a consequence of the abuse you suffered. I wouldn't leave you because you were abused, unless you're destroyed and even though I try to help you, I end up fucked up too.1
Most Helpful Girl
in dating, people start off slow while slowly getting to know the person. I would recommend not telling him everything all at once just little bits here and there after you build a strong trust bond with him.2