I've been friends with a girl I know though work for a few months now. We've gone out to the movies a few times and had dinner together, not on a date but just as friends. However I have developed romantic feelings for her and I'd like to ask her if she'd be my girlfriend, however there is a big problem. When it comes to women, I'm more or less clueless. I suffer from social anxiety and as a result I've never really had a girlfriend before at 26. I'm really, really shy, and am pretty awful at expressing how I really feel. I'm not good at reading signs, I'm not good at sending signs, and even if I were, I wouldn't really know how to follow up on such signs. Not only that, I have a deep seeded fear of rejection.
I don't know what to do, sometimes I wonder if I should bother asking her out at all, knowing my luck she won't feel the same way I do but I do like her. Anybody have any ideas? Particularly as to how to ask her out?
Most Helpful Girl
Since she's already comfortable going out with you. Take her to dinner and towards the end tell her everything you like about her and that youve developed romantic feelings for her. And buy dinner.1
Most Helpful Guy
Okay first things first. You said your terrified of getting rejected, don't be. It's bound to happen once in awhile, take it as a grain of salt her loss your gain.
To answer the rest of your question, don't ask her to be your girlfriend. Simply ask her on a date and let her know your intention is to date her. For the clueless part be observant to her body language, keep the conversations about her. Another words listen to her, she will tell you her likes/dislikes. Also watch videos on YouTube and if a women is interested in you they go over it there.
Lastly don't be scared or nervous. Your simply finding out if you two have mutual feelings for one another, secondly she will pick up on your nervous energy. Have fun!0