You are flirting with someone, and they just keep giving you mixed signals and stringing you along. Then all of the sudden they take you with open arms. Later you suspect and find that their plan to succeed failed/life took an unexpected turn. Or they had someone else in mind that turned them down. Could you love that person if you were just thier second choice?
Most Helpful Girl
No I definitely would not settle for being some guys second choice. I wouldn't like to be with someone who didn't want me or love me in the first place. Knowing that he thinks about the one that got away every morning he wakes up and every night when he goes to bed. He wouldn't be happy and nor would I. Never just settle for someone who you have no feelings for or are not really attracted to, because you will not be content and you will end up looking for someone else and breaking that other persons heart. If you choose to keep up the pretence they will sense this and discover your true feelings anyway.3
Most Helpful Guy
Everyone who's saying no, get real- literally everyone forms their first crushes back when they're still in the pee-wee leagues, back before they're even in their teens. So EVERYONE is going to be someone's backup plan, guaranteed. Unless you're in some weird sort of romantic relationship with a childhood friend, tutor, former teacher or family member, you ARE one of your partner's backup plans. And your partner WILL be one of your backup plans. Because you'll have picked out your first choice back when you were a naive, uninformed, inexperienced young fool, on the flimsiest basis imaginable. And your first choice will almost ALWAYS have been wrong. The first choice isn't what matters. I couldn't care less if I'm not a girl's first choice. What really matters is that I'm her LAST choice, her FINAL choice.1