I have been hanging out with my ex from 3 years ago (first love) for 8 or 9 months now, being exclusive, not interested in anyone else.
Recently I met a guy, while my ex has been out of the country. He's 5 years younger yet everything is perfect, our chemistry, our connections, just everything. The only thing that stands out is the age and I mean, my history with my ex keeps popping in my head. My ex comes back in a week, and this new guy wants me to be his girlfriend although we just met like a week ago.
The difference is my ex and I have been exclusive, yet, with the history we have, we're not official and we're STILL building our trust with eachother.
I'm afraid when my ex gets back in town, I'm going to resort to the usual pattern with him, but I'm not sure what to tell this new guy. Should I just tell him to take our time and see what happens; should I mention my ex or should I just plainly say let's take our time?
Am I the only one that's bothered by a 5 year age difference in a potential relationship especially when the woman is older?
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Crazy, I have a somewhat similar situation. The guy I'm "relating to" is 4 1/2 years younger than me too. So I kind of understand the age thing, but I have gotten over it. It doesn't bother me at all anymore that he is that much younger than me. It doesn't even feel like he is anymore. And as far as your ex thing, that's a really tough one. You need to forget the age and decide which one you feel the deeper or better connection with. Maybe your ex is your ex for a reason and you should not re-live that. Good luck figuring this out.0