Thanks for your help.
He asked me out but i was not ready to get involved. Knowing how much i liked him i thought it'd be awkward & unfair to him to keep him at a distance and date simultaneously, so i just said no. its been several months and we are hanging out a lot and i am ready try again, but i still want to go slow. I want to ask him out though because I want him to definitely know i 'like; him. There's a lot of hidden tension bc no one is sure if we are hanging out or interested or should be giving other people a chance.
I want to cut the ambiguity and have a chance to be alone with him BUT i don't want to rush into anything. like i want it to be like a friendship except we know we like each other and go from there. slowly.
What i want to know is, does the at of asking him on a date mean he will likely expect things to progress quickly, sexually, or otherwise? Is it acceptable to go on a date if you want to take things slow, and, if you CAN go out and still take things slowly then how is it different than hanging out? like in his mind,.'well if she wants to go slow why does she ask me on a date, instead of just hang out'. if he asked me that what would i say? to me is still different but i'm not exactly sure how other than if i ask him on a date he knows i like him, and we are alone.
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Slow is acceptable, motionless is not.
Ultimately at this point he's going to seriously question whether you like him until things become physical.
You can buy some time as you move slowly by being clear and direct.
The difference between dating and hanging out is intent. Which circles back to, what path are you -potentially- on?
Early dates are a lot like a job interview process, where you are deciding if you want to take things further. And a 'date' is like an interview, where 'hanging out' is more like just talking to a contact who may not actually be considering hiring you. And like dating, with interviews, you're free to go to one not being sure you want the job, but if they are actually hiring, pretty soon they're going to either hire you, or hire someone else.1
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