Okay so this guy found out I liked him and he said he would never date me because I look like a grandmother. I was shocked because he always told me I look pretty. And he doesn't even know how to dress. (I don't like him anymore). Then my friends always tell me they think of me as the mother of the group. I help out at a orphanage on the weekends and the kids there tell me I am very gentle and motherly like. I have always just been a quiet person and I care about people by nature. And I usually wear dresses or something fancy. But I feel like I must be really plain or something for people to think of me as a mom. I feel offended when people say that about me and it leads me to believe that's why I don't have a boyfriend. Should I change something or let it go?
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Dang I've also felt like I've been mothering my friends and sometimes I think to myself, whether I should just stop.
My advice, I personally feel is, you have to set certain boundaries. If its something your friends can do, let them do it. Help once, help twice, but thats enough. Trivial things which they can handle on their own like paying for something etc. Know when to lend a hand and when to let others steer the wheel. Moderation is key.
As for appearance wise, your nature does not equal to your appearance. If that boy can't see you for the gem you are, then it's his loss. And love goes deeper than that, whereas beauty is skin deep.
You just haven't met the right one yet. Don't let what they say pull you down!1