I just started dating this guy and he's a smart, nice and cute guy. We do not communicate that often. I met him since mid Feb and we have only hung out 5 times in the past 2.5 months. We don't text daily or talk daily. I sometimes text him once a week and he ALWAYS respond back, or when I call him, he picks up or call me back if he's at work. He called me a few times too. We have great chemistry, enjoy each others' company and are both physically attracted to each other. We fooled around but haven't actually had sex yet. We talked about it but I told him I am not ready and he said he respects that.
However, when I tell my friends about this, they all ask "why doesn't he text/call you often?" They lead me to think that I am in denial that this guy just using me and stringing me along until we do the deed. I start to think, "what if they're right? Why is he not calling me daily or wanting to hang out with me more often?" Before this, I was completely fine with not talking to him daily. I think distance makes the heart grows fonder. I enjoy the little time I have with him and it's special. It makes me want more and I like that feeling, but are my friends right? Is he just playing me? I asked him if he's seeing other people and he said "No, I am not like that."
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For me, I still think women have it easier because, I think it’s easier for a girl to get a boyfriend than it is for a guy to get a girlfriend because girls just have to be born cute, pretty, they just have to look good in order for us guys to consider them girlfriend material or one-night stand material, or just for us to be interested in them, that's all. Us guys have to walk right, stand right, sit right, breathe right, talk right, think right. We have to have the right social skills, conversation skills, pretty much talking skills, the right attitude, the right mentality, the right way of thinking, the right body language, and the right confidence. It’s like a guy’s success with girls all comes down to the words and sentences that come out of his mouth, meanwhile girls just have to have the body and looks in order to get a guy. My whole point is that it’s easier to be visually, physically appealing to someone than it is to be emotionally, verbally, mentaly appealing to someone. Because Confidence is a Mental thing.
Basically, women judge men for their social status, social skills and confidence, and all the other stuff I mentioned, just as much as us men judge women based on their looks1