There's this guy that has been trying to get me to go out with him since high school but I've never really been attracted to him- He's a little overweight but has a very attractive face. I'm starting to appreciate his initiative tho haha
Its not like he's lazy... he plays college baseball, coaches and is going to PT school.
But shouldn't I be at least initially attracted to him?
Would it be rude to get him to change his lifestyle a bit of we were to start dating?
Most Helpful Guy
I believe people should accept others for who they are, not for who they want them to be. And with that being said, I don’t feel it is wrong to try and help someone to change and be healthier, so long as you’re doing it for them and not for yourself, especially if you’re in a relationship with them. You should go out with a person because you feel attracted to them and you desire to have a relationship with that person. However, never go into a relationship with the notion that once you’re in said relationship you’ll change the other person so they fit more your personality or what you feel you desire. Instead, go into the relationship liking the other person for who they are to begin with, and then, and only then should you work with them to help for them to lead a healthier lifestyle, but again, not because you feel something is wrong with them, but because you care enough about them to help them change for the better so you and the other person can have a long, happy, and stable relationship together. That’s my bottom line.1
Most Helpful Girl
What is one date? Go for it.
Just go in knowing it's unlikely that he will change his lifestyle (eating habits, etc). He *might* but don't bet on him to change.3