I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months, and are both in college. He lives in a house with other 3 guys and I've met them a few months back, all really nice guys. He's one year older than me. Anyways so over the weekend me, my boyfriend and his friends all planned to go to a rock concert for quite some time now, which we were really excited for.
I was having a great time at the concert, but I knew further into the show I was a little too drunk. I was drinking the same amount as my boyfriend, so little did I know I was going to be wasted because he drinks a lot more than I do. I noticed towards the end, he was checking his phone and stuff. I asked if he was ok and he said yes. I can't remember much, but I knew I was being a little sloppy, and he wasn't being super affectionate, holding me or anything. Just before it ended he said him and the guys are all leaving - he wasn't holding me close or anything, and had a feeling he was being cold. We went upstairs when we got back on his bed and he asked if I was OK. I told him I'm a little too intoxicated as I'd like to be but had a blast. I told him he looked nice tonight and danced great, and he was like "you too but you were a little embarrassing". I was really frustrated that he told me that, and I didn't say anything in response cause I was hurt, n really drunk at the time. The next day we relaxed and everything was fine, and went out for dinner that night before I went home.
But ever since it's been bothering me that he said I was embarrassing - like maybe I got a little sloppy or danced funny/couldnt walk straight, but no need to distance yourself and give me the cold shoulder. I just feel like if I have a night like that every once in a while my man would take care of me, not abandon me like that. I know if he was flopping all over and couldn't control himself I would take care of him cause I care about him. He told me he'll text me but but because of this now I feel like he doesn't want me anymore
Most Helpful Guy
Hard to say without more context, but if all you did was get a little drunk and stumble a bit I don't understand what his problem is. Unless you're getting wasted all the time, then who cares? You had fun and didn't do anything stupid like drive, so what's the problem?
Unless you woke up with a pounding headache you probably didn't drink all that much anyway. How much you "feel" alcohol varies a lot. Sometimes I can have 4 drinks and barely feel it, other times 1 or 2 makes me feel a little drunk. When you're already in a good mood you're likely to feel it a lot more.2
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think guys like sloppy drunk girls. I wouldn't like a sloppy drunk guy. Maybe you said or did something that you don't remember. Ask him specifically what it was you did to embarrass him. You have two options. You can either refrain from drinking too much next time or you can tell him I am who I am. This is me.. take it or leave it. Just be prepared that if he leaves it then you have to accept it. You want someone who will take you for who you are - you want to be yourself around your guy not someone he wants you to be. Your young and will grow out of the sloppy drunk phase soon enough. Enjoy it while you can.2