I'm a very insecure person in my life and I feel like I need to have a girl in my life but deep down inside I know I don't want one and I should just focus on myself. Many many many girls have told me I'm insecure so I know that and I know it's a really bad thing, but how can I get over this feeling? Whenever I'm rejected I always think I'm doing something wrong and I get depressed. Any thoughts? What are your experiences?
Most Helpful Girl
I'm not an expert nor a professional on psychology but I don't know cuz I'm not an expert but u could surround yourself with positive, creative people and their energy will rub on to u. Look at yourself in a mirror and just praise yourself. Write all the things that are good qualities on u. Or have ur friends tell u those qualities are. Speak to ur "inner" child and just tell them that u will stop hurting that child from now on. And if u ever remind yourself ur insecurities, just tell ur self that there is a billion people in this planet this "insecurity" someone has it before, or someone has it worst than me. I tell myself when I do something emberrasing or I am not confident enough in a new environment/people. I tell myself this: "this feeling is momentary, they don't know my insecurity because as soon as this event is over they will go on with their lives and will forget about mine" so I just laugh it off and always smile so the "negative" feeling goes away as soon as I smile and stand high.
Again I'm no expert. But u could try this? Ik is hard but is a step I must take. Because in the end of the road. Everyone has one goal which is: Happiness. 💕1
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Most Helpful Guy
You can't love another person until you learn to love yourself. It's like a pyramid. You are the base and you can't build any higher until the base is complete. I am going through the exact same thing right now and what worked best for me was taking a moment to really search my mind for what it was about myself that was less than ideal. Hair color - Searched forums and found it wasn't as important as I thought, Body type - Went to the gym and began to craft the body I felt the sexiest in, Appearance - I looked to tutorials on the internet and found the best way to dress and groom for my body type and facial structure (such as not wearing round glasses with a round face), my path in life - Looked at the alternatives and found that my current path would open the most doors in the future making change easy if I wanted it, Connections - I searched my campus for clubs and parties that I could participate in, Girls - Joined NoFap to try to make my sexual attraction focus on real girls instead of pixels on a screen.
tl:dr It is up to YOU to fix or appreciate who you are. Find your faults and approach them head on instead of accepting them as permanent. You don't have to change anything about yourself but you do need to realize who you are and how it affects your persona. Good luck, friend! :)1