I just want to be happy, have a good time, feel wanted, be pursued, and mostly be in control. I would also like to be in the power seat. I just want to be able to have these guys want me, and when I actually like a guy back for once, I want be able to keep him around. I want him to be interested in me and only me. Any books on how to do this?
Most Helpful Guy
lol while i dont see anything wrong with most of that in a healthy relationship, the control thing might limit some of ur relationships potential if u really want that. u should be more focused on being happy, having fun, and wanted, and of course both of u likeing each other, trusting and all that shit. if u start throwing in weird side stuff, u can be killing off potetnially good bfs for silly reasons.1
Most Helpful Girl
Okay here is what I suggest. Stop looking for books. Because everybody has their own views on how to get a guy. But you have to stop and look at yourself in the mirror first, and ask yourself this: Are you ready to date? Or even suitable as a dating partner? Are you happy single?
If the answer is no to all of those questions, that is your problem.
You want to be happy?: Be happy on your own. Nobody needs a partner who is miserable for whatever reason wrong in life, or because they don't have anybody. Loneliness is not a valid excuse to look for a partner, or else you will be considered unhealthy.
You want to have a good time?: Show that you are happy and having a good time with your life period. A happy person attract's other interested and happy people. Or else you'll end up with duds that'll use you. Because they think just like you at the moment.
You say all these things about what you want, but what you're really asking is: What good book will help me how to manipulate a man to desire me sexually. That is why nobody is looking at your direction. There are plenty of books that authors write no matter how crappy it is everywhere. But this is what you're not getting. You can NEVER make a man do something that they already do not want to do.
You can't be in the power seat because it is not for you and for anybody to control. That is not how dating works. You can say how you want all these guys yet you don't have eyes for one person. What you're saying basically is that you want to string along men, control them, and make them only want you. They have free will. First get over your insecurities and learn to step outside and ask men out yourself that you feel and believe would make a great dating partner. Books are not going to help if you don't change your mentality first. No offense. But this is why you're single. And you don't even realize what you're doing to yourself is self-harm psychologically. Your way of thinking is going to attract those men who rape's, abuse and use women for sex because you're too easy and simple-minded. These guys KNOWS a woman wants to feel desired. But you can never make a man want to stay with a person who doesn't meet's his standards for a good woman in HIS eyes.1
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