What are your top 5 deal breakers?

Me if a girl ,
has Busted feet , hands
attitude ,
too concided
unfreatful
poor hygiene





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  • Physical: If they don't have some sort of pride in their appearance. Confidence is key! Also, a healthy body is the sexiest, in my opinion.

    Personality: Controlling, lacking empathy, disrespectful towards others, & lazy slobs.

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    • 10d

      What if he had to shave his head bald from hair loss?

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    • 6d

      I know but wouldn't you agree most young women find bald to be a serious issue like yourself? If it was one and two I wouldn't care but the majority seem against it and as I said my standards on a girls body looks and mind are high and I refuse to accept less just because I lost hair which makes that bias against bald harder.

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      @beaves11 I really don't feel it's that huge of an issue as you're making it out to be.

  • 1. Doesn't want kids (adopted or otherwise)
    2. Doesn't want pets
    3. Homophobic/sexist/racist/whatever/just generally an arsehole
    4. Poor hygiene
    5. Shows violent behaviour

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    • 10d

      Don't forget bald, you've said that to guys here before

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    • 8d

      When you and other say bald is so bad it completely defines a mans looks, even when he dies everything else to keep in good shape and looks yes that is ridiculous and I'm n** that girls value something as petty as hair which isn't controllable while defending themselves when they gain weight out of laziness.

  • Poor hygiene, immature, conceited, shallow, disrespectful

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  • * Pessimistic Attitude

    *Lack of responsibility

    * Disrespectful to me, family, friends (etc)

    * If he doesn't want children

    * Does drugs

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  • What do you mean by busted feet or hands? Lol
    Also - concided? Do you mean conceited?

    Personally, though it's not a deal breaker on tsp own, I do like a guy who can spell / string together legible sentences haha

    My top 5 deal breakers are:

    1. Self-absorbed
    2. Rude / mean to others (even if not to me)
    3. Dishonest / untrustworthy
    4. Untrusting
    5. Quick to anger

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  • Not wanting marriage, not wanting kids, being very lazy (not wanting to work), unfaithfulness, opposite religious beliefs.

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  • Bad grammar and spelling (especially if English is their first language)
    Has a bad vibe to them (i trust my instincts)
    Is an idiot (disregards common sense and/or sensible advice)
    Acts different towards me depending on company (less touchy around parents is fine)
    Is a hypocrite.

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    • 10d

      Bad grammar? Interesting..

      So if you hit it off with a really great guy but found out weeks later he was a bad speller you would dump him?

    • 10d

      @Jager66 No, but it really puts me off.

      I don't really have deal breakers, but I do have things (as in the above list) that will make me think twice. The grammar and spelling, unless English is your second language, or you're dyslexic, comes across as just lazy to me. The occasional mistake is fine, that one word that always gets you? Fine. But constantly misspelling words, and misusing punctuation and grammar really irks me. I hate watching my dad write anything. He can't spell toilet paper for crying out loud! NEVER let him write a grocery list. You will end up buying sardines when he meant to write sausages.

      Really the only ACTUAL deal breaker here is the bad vibe. The rest I can logic out and ask him to change, and it can be changed.
      Bad vibe? Get out, I don't want to know you and I don't want any of my friends to either.

    • 10d

      Makes sense, thanks for responding.

      I was interested because I'm nearly an opposite to that so I was curious for your perspective. For me I grew up learning two languages at the same time, English being primary, and then in high school it was a lot of time on the internet as well. So I was learning American English, British English, Canadian French, France French all at the same time.

      The result... Terrible grammatical and spelling skills with a large vocabulary... lol. So I kinda have a deal breaker for people who have a problem with bad grammar and spelling.

  • If he is racist, sexist, bitter, xenophobic or hates people of other religions
    If he doesn't respect poor people
    If he tells lies or is hypocritical or lacks self-awareness
    If he has bad breath or smells bad or has health problems that could make him smell bad later on
    If he allows himself to get fat

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    • 11d

      You just described me...

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    • 11d

      @Nelsoen I only seem to get along with 5% of girls. The others seem to try and attack or get rid of me. Am I the only guy this happens to?

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      I'm sure it happens to a lot of guys lol

  • 1. Cheats
    2. Is disrespectful towards me/treats me like an object
    3. Doesn't take care of his responsibilities
    4. Has poor hygiene
    5. Cannot swear (I would not be down if I had to censor myself all the time around him)

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  • 1. Lack of basic decency and respect for others
    2. Rude, unkind, or inconsiderate behavior
    3. Extreme poor hygiene or gross habits
    4. Smoking (and not actively trying to quit) or other addictions
    5. Incompatible sense of humor or opinions

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  • Hmm, in no order.
    -no sense of humor
    -terrible hygiene
    -cocky
    -brutish
    -too aggressive about wanting sex early on

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  • 1) shorter than me
    2) younger than me
    3) not funny
    4) is disrespectful/a complete tool
    5) someone who plays games

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  • Any type of destructive addiction (drugs, alcoholism, gaming/gambling etc)
    Being violent
    Being verbally abusive
    Being disrespectful
    Not being able to take care of himself

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    • 11d

      Lol gaming? What's wrong with gaming?

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    • 11d

      @CHRIS11796 can you read? "Any type of destructive addiction", and then I listed a couple of examples. I play games myself, I don't think everyone who plays games has a problem. But it can definitely be a problem if you let it become a destructive addiction. That was my point.

  • drugs/alcohol.. that goes for dealers as well
    pants half off your @ss. disgusting...
    hygiene
    no ambition
    no spine
    lying
    disrespectful
    and, my apologies, bigger than me in the weight department. i am actually trying to be fit. i would like someone who shared the same goal.

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  • Deal breakers for me will be:
    1.) Disrespectful to people/older people/my family
    2.) Is addictive to something
    3.) Poor hygiene
    4.) Not enough self confidence
    5.) Shallow minded. Like I dislike guys that tell me they want to date me only because I'm Latina.

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    • 11d

      lol the last one...
      n yaa i had a marihuana problem
      but iv been sober.. n also really bad alchohol
      but iv been clean :)

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    • 11d

      Cierto, q bueno q ahora estas mejor

    • 11d

      no si gracias a dios ya me estaba cargando la chingada xD

  • Poor hygiene, distrustful, lack of self confidence, inflated ego, and disrespectful to my boundaries and those around us.

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  • - Pushover/passive/too shy
    - No sense of humor
    - Controlling
    - Low/no self esteem
    - Over weight

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  • Sorry, I only have three that I can think of:
    1. Bigotry and Cooness
    2. Arrogance/Cockiness
    3. Too Serious is my number one thing

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  • Poor hygiene
    Conceited and arrogant
    Mean personality
    Ignorant on world issues and generally uneducated about things
    Racist/homophobic/biphobic etc.

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  • Arrogant
    Unreliable
    Manipulative
    Disloyal
    No sense of humour

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  • Things that are a deal breaker for a guy:
    Being an f boy
    Poor hygiene
    Large "London look" gap between teeth (a small one I dont mind though)
    Long hair
    Cocky (and not as a joke)

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  • Lazy, A smoker, a cheater, an addict, poor hygiene
    Busted feet?

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    • 11d

      yeaa nobody wants sombody like that xP
      smelly ass bum xD

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    • 11d

      you mean dirty feet feet wth callouses feet with cuts feet with a tan... busted means what exactly?

    • 11d

      @AriadneSky tore up like she dragged them..

      like fucked up toe nails,, dirty ,, I don't know jst not cute feet u kno.. flintstone feet... like i understand a tan but i mean caveman feet like oh shit wtf happpend...

      like WHAAAT ARE THOOOSEE

  • Can't cook
    Can't spell for shit
    Controlling
    Arrogant
    Doesn't want kids/get married someday

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    • 11d


      well i jst dont want my girlfriend talking to any dudes.. other thn that idc but yaaa

      n i consider myself a decent cook and speller...
      but HoW about u.. CAN YOU COOK hahaha beside top roman n cereal xD

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    • 11d

      welp guess u wouldn't like me thn

    • 11d

      No. I talk to whoever I want whenever I want because I am my own person who can make her own responsible decisions and be trusted.

  • Any form of Cheating
    Abuse
    Drug Use
    Atheist
    Mean spirited

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  • Cheating
    Violence
    Substance abuser
    Smoker
    Bad temper

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  • short hair
    overweight
    doesn't ask question / gets bored or impatient when i explain myself
    is affectionate to get sex - does not actually want affection/ is not affectionate
    likes anal sex violent sex degrading sex

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    • 11d

      Merely wanting anal sex is a deal breaker for you?

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    • 11d

      wtf thats digusting... if a man has sex with a man i recomend u run.. run and dont look back

    • 11d

      Hey I shave my head what's wrong with short hair?

  • Poor self care
    Lack of sense of humor
    Abusive
    Younger than me
    No goals

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  • Cheater
    No sense of humor
    Cocky/conceited
    Puts no effort in looking good at all
    Is super cheap

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    • 9d

      What if he had a shaved bald head? Would you view that as deal breaker?

  • Bad spelling. Times 5.

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  • completely different lifestyle than mine unless he has more improved version of mine which I agree with and can follow.

    Disrespectful/ finds it funny to make fun of others

    stingy

    incompatibility

    irrational

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What Guys Said 49

  • - not very mentally stimulating. There's only so much small talk i can do before i want to kill myself
    - too liberal - i don't find it attractive if she doesn't hold to any values including herself
    - tattoos and piercings - some girls complain guys are shallow. .. yet some girls smother themselves in tattoos when it ends up making them look masculine
    - smoker and profanity
    - no drive and always not interesting in doing new things

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  • If she is a flake. So far I have not had to add anything else to the list. No one is true to their word any more.

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  • Dumb
    Bitchy
    Pretentious
    Immature
    Lazy

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  • Gold digger
    Too many tattoos/piercings
    self entitled and expect chivalry I don't mind giving it but only if she doesn't expect.
    If she is below a 5/10 I don't expect too much from a woman's looks but she should at least be average looking.
    If she is manipulative and tries to not allow me to see my loves ones and stalks or snoops through my shit.

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  • too concided and unfreatful

    Oh man those are the worst!

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  • Doesn't want to get married.
    Doesn't want children.
    Horrible personality.
    An extremist.
    Really different views from mine.

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  • 1, Disloyal attention whore flirt type with a whole bunch of guy "friends"

    2. Golddigging daddy/mental issues type

    3. Doesn't suck dick or if she does, she only does it to please not because she actually craves it.
    4. A moocher and irresponsible atheist
    5. bad hygiene

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  • pompous/pious
    doesn't like anal
    doesn't like blowjobs
    overweight
    bad hygiene.

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  • Unfaithful, smoking, overly promiscious, bitch attitude and too much makeup as well as any implants.

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  • Smoker
    Super religious
    Unhealthy
    Handicapped
    Feminazi

    It's not very hard to find girls that aren't any of these. :)

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  • Here's my list:

    1. Possessive or too jealous;
    2. Too clingy;
    3. Smoker;
    4. Overweight;
    5. Constantly complains about things.

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  • lying
    poor hygiene

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  • 1.) Sarcasm

    2.) Poor personality

    3.) Attention Seeker

    4.) Poor communication skills

    5.) Can be distant not a closeness

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  • 1 - can't be controlling
    2 - hygiene
    3 - attitude
    4 - can't be spending money like its going out of style
    5 - must respect my space

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  • - Fat.
    - Smokes.
    - Doesn't want marriage or kids.
    - Disrespectful/cocky/no sense of humour.
    - Different beliefs from mine.

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  • Mine are when people spell conceited wrong, unfaithful wrong, and when they talk about busted feet, busted hands, and ask questions about deal breakers.

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  • Someone who can't spell on a computer with autocorrect... Damn dude.

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  • -Dislike of fine French cheeses
    Same for 2-5

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  • Argumentative
    Bad Hygiene
    Emotionless
    Poor Self Esteem
    Has a Penis

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  • Fat
    Has another man's kid
    Too old
    Insecurity
    Being unpleasant

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  • racism, closeminded, disrespect, smoking, pixie haircuts, out of shape

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  • Have bad habit/drug addiction/mental issue
    Gold digger/Cheater
    Disrespectful/Immature/Self-centered
    Bad tempered
    Poor hygiene

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  • I'm asexual/aromantic so my deal breakers are 1. Interested in having sex with me 2. Interested in having a relationship with me 3. Male. 4. Female. 5. Any other gender. I'm only interested in friendship.

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  • Penis
    Mustache
    Fat
    Smoking
    Ugly

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  • Feminist
    Evangelical Christian
    Narcissist
    Transgender
    Climate change denier.

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  • isn't attractive.

    is a hoe or had a pormiscous past

    too detached from reality

    isn't loyal

    treats people bad

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  • 1. cheated on guys before
    2. fat
    3. smoking
    4. tattoos/piercings (other than ears)
    5. religious

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  • Shyness
    Bitchiness
    Has kids
    Lacking a sense of humor
    Lack of health

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  • Well I'd just read others opinion and learn 😅

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  • Kids, meddling ex, poor hygiene, obesity, smoking.

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