All of my life I have never had a girlfriend, it came to the point where I just said screw it and decided to focus on doing things that make me happy, now though in the past couple of years I have noticed women taking interest in me, I have now gone out on dates with them but i just don't know what to do, the women just have too much baggage, many of them seem emotionally scarred literally, I am not exaggerating, from previous relationships or going out with guys that have mistreated them which has left them with issues, another problem is kids, I don't expect at 31 for women to not have any kids, but it's like they are looking for a father for their children, I want a relationship with a woman, I just don't want to be considered a spot to be filled for a father figure, in several instances women were still in communication with their baby daddy's and yes I know that these are the fathers of the children and I can't just tell them to stop seeing them but all of this baggage and scarring is being told to me about how the father is a scumbag etc yet they are still coming around, I feel miserable dating and it's hard, I do enjoy women being interested in me compared to most of my life when I was ignored but I just feel miserable dating women, is this really how dating is? I feel like I am aging and stressing out with all these issues women are telling me about their exes and again I don't expect a virgin woman but my god the issues that women bring up and problems that they have seem like they have just gone through a world war, any advice?
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Dude, I'm sorry. But most women by 30 has a lot of baggage. ^^
All you can do is ignore the ones who do have baggage that they refuse to leave behind. Baggage is no good. You don't need something to hold you down when you don't even know if you can even handle it. Women should not be looking for another father. But that person should want to include another person into their lives if they can't be with the father of that child. It's their problem. They did what they wanted, and it's not the kid's fault, but the parents. You will just have to keep on looking.0
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